Christian dating boundaries are . . . ambiguous.
Dating by definition and design is somewhere in between friendship and marriage, therefore Christian guys and girls are always trying to navigate the confusion which is always produced by romance without commitment. God designed the two to always be paired together, so knowing how much romance to engage in when the commitment is limited is tricky.
When you are a Christian who works in a secular work place, you have a real challenge in front of you. Even if you work in a Christian environment like a church or a non-profit, there will always be people who have a way of dragging you down rather than building you up. This is why Christian boundaries at work are such an important part of a healthy life.
Boundaries usually don’t just appear magically. Like fences around our property, we have to put in the work to build them if we hope to keep the good in and the bad out. I like the analogy of fences around a yard when it comes to personal boundaries at work because usually there will be a small gate somewhere along the fence too. We need to be able to let people into our lives as well when appropriate.
If you are a Christian, there is perhaps no better missionary field for you than your secular place of work. The goal here is not to setup an impenetrable wall where no one can break through your defenses and truly get to know you. Rather, the goal is to allow people in who you are going to help rather than people who are going to hurt you. Like a gate, you need to be able to choose when and who enters into your yard.
Christian boundaries at work keep you in control of your life. So let’s look at three of the most important boundaries for Christians in the workplace.
You are not going to find the term “personal boundaries” in the Bible. However, the Bible does talk about personal boundaries in principle.
1 Corinthians 7:39
When it comes to dating a non-Christian, the Bible does not say anything directly about this because dating as we know it was not a custom in biblical times. However, the Bible does have many guiding principles that give us all the answers we need when asking, “Is it okay to date a non-believer?”
If you want Christian dating advice on long-distance relationships, you will want to study Philippians 6:18 as this is where long-distance dating is specifically mentioned. It reads in the KJV, “Thou shall only date long-distance if thy . . . are you still reading this . . . I’m obviously joking.”
Proverbs 13:12, 1 John 5:21
When it comes to dating and singleness, perhaps some of the most needed Christian advice is “How to get over someone.”
How can you love people better? How can you love your wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend, friends, or coworkers like Christ loves you? How can you love less conditionally?
1 Corinthians 7:1-10
When it comes to Christian dating, how far is too far? What are you aloud to do in dating? Is kissing okay? What about spooning?
As a Christian, one of the most important things in your life should be your relationships. God has told us to love him first and foremost. But he has told us the second most important part of our life is to love other people (Matthew 22:36-40).
Therefore, our human relationships should be ultra-important to us. Whether it is a marriage or a dating relationship, there are certain biblical principles that can help you have healthier connections with the people you love.
There are so many things that could be said when covering a huge topic like “Christian Relationship Advice.” Here are just 7 of the top Christian principles I believe can help your marriage or dating relationship.
On many days it’s no problem for me to just jump in and help wherever and whenever needed. But all too often, if I’m being totally honest, I only like serving Jesus and other people when I was planning on it and I had time to mentally prepare for it. I struggle with being inconvenienced.