
Regardless of age, there are many biblical principles that can help you find the right person to marry. The same truths in Scripture apply to everyone.

(Warning: This article does use explicit sexual language for the purpose of clearly answering hard questions people are asking. If you’re sensitive to such language and descriptions, you may not want to read further.)
Are there any sexual acts that are off limits for husbands and wives?

Do you have a strong desire to be deeply connected to someone, yet an equally intense fear of getting hurt if you ever did connect deeply? Have you longed for someone to open up to you, but once they did, you pulled away because you didn’t know how to handle the intimacy? Do you feel like you’re in a constant push-pull cycle towards romance, pushing for it but then pulling away once you get close to having it?

Sex is a commanded choice (1 Corinthians 7:1-5). In that way, sex is just like love. We are commanded to love others (Matthew 22:37-40). However, true love is a choice. In that same sense, spouses are commanded to have sex. But sex must never be forced. It must always be a voluntary choice.

Many Christians have been taught that the best way to find your spouse is to stop looking – almost like trying to play reverse psychology on God. They think that if they want a spouse too badly, God won’t give it to them. But if they let it go and stop trying to find someone, then God will give it to them.