
Everyone’s story is unique, especially when it comes to meeting the person God has called you to marry. And yet, for many Christians, there are common themes through which God prepares his people to thrive in a godly marriage.

Maybe you met her in passing, but for some reason, you can’t stop thinking about her. Or maybe you crossed paths and had strong chemistry, but neither of you was in a season to date. Maybe you were trying to rebuild your life, one of you was emotionally unavailable, focused on career goals, or healing from past wounds. The connection felt real, but the timing was just off.

When I say that you can do something to “make it difficult for God” to bring you a relationship, I don’t mean we can do anything that literally decreases the power of God (Proverbs 19:21), overrules what he wants to do (Psalm 135:6), or elevates human free will over God’s sovereign will (Romans 9:18).

As a Christian single woman navigating your interactions with single men, it’s important that you know how a man will decide if you are interested in him or not. It’s important for you to know this so you can avoid sending the wrong message to the guys you don’t like and so you can send the right message to the guy you do like.