Just because a lot of Christians give a certain piece of marriage advice doesn’t mean that this advice is good. Sometimes you end up hearing advice so often that you just assume it must be helpful because so many people are saying it. I’ve found that to be a mistake.
While feelings should not be our primary guide in life, when it comes to meeting the person God wants you to marry, they are “a” variable we need to consider.
The Scriptures and observable facts in reality should be given more weight when making relationship decisions. However, Scripture itself states that marriage is not a command. Rather, it is a biblical option for those who want it. Thus, you should be aware of your own feelings if you really want to know who God is leading you to marry or not marry.
If you’re a Christian man and you believe a woman may be interested in you, what should you actually do? Should you wait for her to make the first move? Should you immediately pursue her? Or will that come off as desperate? Will you scare her away if you act too soon or miss your chance if you wait too long? Should you just “let things happen naturally” or be more proactive?
The way you spend your days will be how you spend your life. While there are certainly moments in life that will determine a great deal, the biggest variable on what happens in your life is not a single moment or decision; rather, it’s the everyday choices you make.
Many Christians imagine that if God brings the right person into their life, the relationship will feel easy from the very beginning. While a healthy relationship should certainly have peace and joy, that doesn’t mean it will be free from challenges. In fact, some of the healthiest couples have had to work through unexpected difficulties that had nothing to do with whether they were meant to be together.
A lot of times, a single woman who wants to be married one day will think and pray so much about God sending her a man who pursues her that she often forgets to prepare herself to respond properly once a good man does start pursuing her.
If you want to know if you’re married to a narcissist, you will want to read my article called 4 Biblical Signs You Are Married to a Narcissist.
The Bible doesn’t use the word narcissist, but it certainly talks a lot about people who we would now label as narcissistic.
Many Christian men spend years praying for God to bring the right woman into their lives. But when a godly woman finally begins showing genuine interest, some men unintentionally sabotage the opportunity.
Before I get started, I want to make clear that this isn’t about blaming the church as if it’s the enemy. I’m also not saying that the primary purpose of church is to help people get married. Ultimately, the church is God’s idea, and its primary purpose is to proclaim the gospel, disciple Christians, and glorify God.