
Sometimes you may have a vague feeling that God is giving you the green light about someone you like. However, how will you know for certain when God is definitely blessing your connection with someone?

(Warning: This article does use explicit sexual language for the purpose of clearly answering hard questions people are asking. If you’re sensitive to such language and descriptions, you may not want to read further.)
Are there any sexual acts that are off limits for husbands and wives?

Do you have a strong desire to be deeply connected to someone, yet an equally intense fear of getting hurt if you ever did connect deeply? Have you longed for someone to open up to you, but once they did, you pulled away because you didn’t know how to handle the intimacy? Do you feel like you’re in a constant push-pull cycle towards romance, pushing for it but then pulling away once you get close to having it?

Sex is a commanded choice (1 Corinthians 7:1-5). In that way, sex is just like love. We are commanded to love others (Matthew 22:37-40). However, true love is a choice. In that same sense, spouses are commanded to have sex. But sex must never be forced. It must always be a voluntary choice.