A healthy, satisfying relationship is one where two people happily give and take from each other in a way that increases their desire to give and take more from each other. So the term “getting used” can be misleading in some ways because in a healthy relationship, two people should be offering service to other and be benefitted by the other person.
When your memories are filled with images of a certain person, you can begin to wonder what God is trying to say to you through these memories. Does your continued thoughts about this person mean God wants you give them another chance? Or is there some other reason for why you can’t forget this person?
In this article, I’m specifically talking about a relationship situation that involves two single people who are not currently dating but one of these people has romantic feelings for the other.
As a Christian woman, you want a man who can understand your insecurities, a man who is patient with you as you work through them, and a man who is willing to grow with you in a committed relationship. If you want a man like that, one of the best things you can do is to be that type of woman to him.
Perhaps you have feelings for someone, and this person seems to have feelings for you too. But for some reason they keep telling you they are not quite ready for a relationship right now? Or maybe you are in a relationship with someone but it’s nothing like you imagined it to be. Should you let it go or try to adapt and enjoy it for what it is?
Psalm 143:5, “I remember the days of old; I meditate on all that you have done; I ponder the work of your hands.” Remembering the past can be extremely helpful as you live in the present. However, like all good things, we can misuse our memories too.
Satan is real. But he’s not going to appear with a pitchfork and devilish grin on his face. Rather, Satan knows the value of secrecy, subtly, and slow attacks that occur in such a way you don’t even notice them.
Was it a lack of faith? If you prayed in a more biblical way, would God have given you that relationship? And if God knew you would not end up with this person, why did he let you fall in love with them to begin with?
“Why is God letting that narcissist thrive in life while I’m over here suffering in silence?” “Why can’t people see the truth about this person? They are clearly manipulating others for their own profit.” “I just don’t understand why God would allow that narcissist to treat me like that. Why won’t God do anything?”
Most Christians agree that it’s the man’s job to pursue. However, this principle gets stated so often that we forget how hard this is for many men. As a woman, if you don’t know about some of the insecurities a man has about pursuing you, you may do things that actually prevent him from pursuing you because you are feeding these fears in him.