3 Signs God Is Saying, “Let Her Go. I Have a Better Woman for You”

If you’re a Christian single man who wants to glorify the Lord in marriage one day, one of the most significant barriers blocking this blessing is your unwillingness to let a woman go who is not your future wife.

As a man feeling led to let a woman go, whether she is your current girlfriend or simply a woman you have strong feelings for, you must remember that God’s “no” is always pointing you to his “yes.” When you force your way through a door he’s closed, you will find out the hard way why he closed it in the first place. It’s far better to listen to his warnings and accept that he knows what is best for you.

Therefore, here are three signs God may be saying, “Let her go. I have a better woman for you.”

1. If You Know You’re Settling, God Is Saying, “Let Her Go. I Have a Better Match for You.”

Deep down, you can often sense when you’re settling. Maybe nothing is terribly wrong, but something is undeniably missing, like attraction, mutual excitement, or personality compatibility.

Settling usually shows up as a quiet ache you keep suppressing. It’s a lingering sense that you’re forcing something God isn’t blessing. When you stay in a relationship simply because you’re afraid of being alone, scared of starting over, or scared that the right woman may never come, you are choosing fear over faith. And fear is never God’s guide.

Sometimes the good is the enemy of the best. Sometimes you have to realize that a woman will be a great wife one day, just not for you. You don’t have to demonize her. You have to accept that you two don’t make the best teammates.

Scripture reminds us that God’s plans are not second-best. I’m not saying God is always going to do exactly what you think is best. Many times, he will give a man a woman who is very different from what he expected. But marriage should always be something you are excited about, not something you would have to settle for.

Ephesians 3:20 declares that God “is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think.” If your heart keeps whispering, “I wish there was more to this relationship,” then the Lord may be gently telling you to let her go so he can bless you and her with the spouses you both will be happy with.

2. God Is Telling You to Let Her Go When It Feels Like She Is Settling for You

Just as God does not want you to choose a woman you would need to settle for, so too does God want a woman to let you go if she was just settling. However, some women will settle because they are so afraid of being alone.

If you sense she is settling, don’t accept this. Even if you really like her, you may have to accept that she doesn’t really like you. The last thing you want to do is marry a woman who doesn’t really value you. She will want to be served by you, but she will not be grateful and respectful in return. Deep down, she will resent you for not being who she really wanted. The woman God has for you will really want to be with you.

Romans 12:9 says, “Let love be genuine.” Genuine love is honest, intentional, and demonstrable. It does not breadcrumb, manipulate, or keep someone as an option while waiting for something “better.”

3. God Is Telling You to Let Her Go If She Doesn’t Know How to Show Appreciation for Your Sacrifices

God often speaks through patterns, not moments. Sometimes a woman will say the wrong thing. That doesn’t mean you should just give up on her. However, if her repeated actions communicate a lack of appreciation for what you do for her, that is a sign God can use to lead you to let her go.

God has placed a high demand on a husband. You will be called to protect, provide, and pursue your future wife for your whole life. And when you meet the right woman, this will be a joy. Sacrificing yourself for someone you love is the key to a happy life.

However, for a marriage to remain healthy, there must be mutual love. And love is an action, not just a feeling. When you sacrifice for your wife, she should be grateful, respectful, and happy to follow your leadership.

This is why Ephesians 5:33 states, “However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”

Here’s a related article called 4 Signs She Is the Woman God Wants You to Marry.