Was it a case of “right person, wrong time”? Or are you just grasping onto this notion of “right person, wrong time” because you really don’t want to accept the idea of never being with this person you love? Should you keep waiting for that person to come back into your life? Or is the right time never going to happen because this person will never be right for you? What is God saying about this?
In some instances, God will certainly lead you to let someone go even though you really want to be in a relationship with them. However, in this article, we will discuss 3 situations where God might truly be saying, “It’s not too late for you two to be together still. Don’t give up on this!”
1. If Things Didn’t Work in the Past Solely Because of Maturity Issues, This Could Be a Sign God Is Saying, “It’s Not Too Late for You Both”
Sometimes a man and woman don’t work out together because of maturity issues and other issues, too. In other words, just because a man and woman were immature in certain areas of their lives or relationship skills does not mean they would have worked if they didn’t have those specific issues back then. Two people can get healed and mature in their ability to thrive in a relationship and still not be a great fit for each other.
Sometimes it’s a personality conflict. Sometimes, two people are just headed in completely different directions in life. And sometimes, they’re just not meant to be. The love just isn’t there.
With all that said, in other instances, a man and woman can have personalities that fit, they can be headed in the same direction in life, and they might truly have genuine love for each other, but they also might have some character issues and immaturities in their hearts that prevent them from being together.
The important thing to remember in instances like this is that we can always grow and mature. No matter our earthly age, we can always keep growing and maturing in the Lord (Ephesians 4:14-15, Philippians 3:12, Hebrews 5:14). Thus, it’s certainly possible for a man and woman to not work at one point in life but then work great together at a different point in life.
The real key, therefore, is to assess two things. First, was immaturity really the only issue that blocked you two from being together? Second, if it was the issue, has anything really changed? Are you both actually different now? If you answer “no” to either of these questions, don’t try to be with this person again.
But if immaturity was the issue and that variable is different now, it’s certainly possible God gives you the green light to try again with this person.
2. If You Two Never Really Gave Each Other a Chance, This Could Be a Sign God Is Saying, “It’s Not Too Late for You Two”
I’m a big believer that, in most cases, a man and woman who tried to be in a relationship together but it didn’t work should not try again. In the vast majority of instances, when a man and woman get back together or rekindle a connection after drifting apart, the same cycle just happens again.
Sadly, many people get stuck in a cycle of repeatedly reconnecting and drifting apart. This prevents them from truly moving on and finding the person God actually wants them to be with. As Proverbs 26:11 states, “Like a dog that returns to his vomit is a fool who repeats his folly.”
However, in some instances, two people have a very brief connection but then things fizzle quickly. Perhaps they were just friends and there was a little chemistry for something more, but then one of them started dating someone else. Or maybe they really enjoyed each other’s company, but then the common bond they shared was lost, such as the college they attended, their status as coworkers, or they had to move states for some reason.
In instances like this, sometimes God gives them a second chance. Maybe the other dating relationship doesn’t work out and you both are single again. Or maybe you start going to the same church unexpectedly after you lost touch with that person once you graduated from college or had to switch companies.
While not a perfect example, you can see this principle a bit as it pertains to David and Abigail. At one point, they couldn’t be together because she was married. But when the Lord struck her husband down, this allowed them to get married (1 Samuel 25:39-42).
The point is, if you never really gave each other a chance, it’s certainly possible God is saying it’s not too late for you both.
3. If God Is Giving You an Unexplainable Hope that You Two Will Rekindle One Day, This Could Be a Sign He Is Saying, “It’s Not Too Late for You Both”
The truth is, this is a very subjective and difficult topic to cover. I can’t tell you the future. All I can do is provide you with situations where it would make biblical sense for God to say, “It’s not too late for you both.”
With that in mind, I think one prerequisite for this type of situation would be God giving you hope that things will work out between you two in the future. If you don’t want to rekindle, or if you would just prefer to move on and stop all this thinking about someone in your past, or if you are just tired of wondering and feel like you are idolizing this person – then these are good signs you should just move on and focus on letting go.
However, for others of you, perhaps God has given you a supernatural hope to keep your heart open to this possibility. If that’s you, I would encourage you to follow your convictions while also being open to your feelings changing again in the future. That’s between you and God (Romans 14:12-13).
My only caution is to also leave room to accept that you can mishear God. In other words, be humble enough to let God correct you if you are making a mistake. You can be confident that God is leading you to keep hoping while also being humble enough to hear otherwise in the future (James 4:13-15).
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