Perhaps you finally met someone who you were excited about, but then it ended before it really even had a chance to begin. Or maybe you thought your boyfriend or girlfriend was the one, but all of a sudden, they broke up with you. Or perhaps you had deep feelings for a friend that you thought you would date one day, but they just entered into a new relationship with someone else.
Whatever the reason for why you feel disappointed in the area of relationships, here are three things the Lord may be trying to say to you.
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1. If You Just Went Through a Relationship Disappointment, God Is Saying, “I’ve Not Forgotten the Desires of Your Heart”
Disappointment is the distance between our expectations and reality. The greater the difference, the more the disappointment. For example, maybe you expected to be married by your early 20s, but now you are in your 30s and still single. Or perhaps you joined an online dating app, met someone you really liked, talked to them nonstop for a few days, but then they just ghosted you. Or maybe you finally worked up the courage to express your feelings for that person you’ve liked for a long time, but they then confessed that they only see you as a really good friend, not as a romantic partner.
In moments like these, the disappointment occurs because there is a massive disconnect between what you imagined and what just happened. But here’s the thing. We only see the past and present. God, however, sees the future. He stands with us in our pain, comforting us through it all. But he’s not ever let down by an unmet hope because he already knows what will happen.
God knows he has a good plan for you. He knows how he will use this current pain for his glory and your good. He knows the blessings he has in store for you. The key, therefore, is to take your eyes off your circumstances and place them back onto God.
After the Lord lovingly rebuked Job for questioning his good plan, even though he had to endure suffering, Job came back to his senses and confessed, “I know that you can do anything, and no one can stop you. You asked, ‘Who is this that questions my wisdom with such ignorance?’ It is I—and I was talking about things I knew nothing about, things far too wonderful for me” (Job 42:2-3, NLT)
Job 42:12 (NLT) then states, “So the Lord blessed Job in the second half of his life even more than in the beginning.”
2. If You Just Went Through a Relationship Disappointment, God Is Saying, “Grieve and Keep Moving Forward”
There are two easy mistakes many people make when they experience a relationship disappointment. The first mistake is that they get stuck in depression and hopelessness. They take months or years to recover, only to be disappointed again and to then spiral into another long season of grieving and hopelessness.
The other mistake many make is that they don’t grieve the disappointment at all and try to rush their healing, which in the process only prolongs their healing. They deny their need to grieve and they think they can just push past the pain. But in reality, they are not experiencing healing; rather, they are just burying their wounds deeper and deeper, making it that much harder to experience true healing in the future.
Therefore, when you experience a relationship disappointment, the Lord is usually leading you to take an appropriate amount of time to grieve while also then pushing you forward so you don’t get stuck in the past.
There are no cookie-cutter formulas here. Some will need to slow down and grieve the disappointment, while others need to stop grieving and start moving forward with the Lord. The key, again, is to refocus on God and fully submit to his guidance for you.
As Psalm 138:8 states, “The Lord will fulfill his purpose for me; your steadfast love, O Lord, endures forever. Do not forsake the work of your hands.”
3. If You Just Went Through a Relationship Disappointment, God Is Saying, “Keep Pursuing Me Above All Things”
If you want God’s best, you must also give him your best. We are not earning the good things God wants to give us, but when we withhold ourselves from the Lord, we will miss out on the good things he wants to give us.
Thus, whether you want someone back in your life who is no longer there, or you are simply longing to meet the future spouse the Lord has for you, the key is to fully give your heart to Jesus. As Proverbs 3:5-6 states, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.”
Notice it does not say you can give him some of your heart. You must trust him with all of your heart. Only when you are totally committed to him can you ensure that you will experience his will for your life.
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