3 Ways to Have a Relationship Breakthrough


James 1:25

What does the Bible say about having a breakthrough? How can you have a spiritual, practical, or even a relational breakthrough in an area of your life that you desperately want to change?

Certainly matters like these are subject to the sovereignty of God, but throughout the Bible we are given instructions on what to do if we want to persevere and have breakthroughs in our lives.

So here are 3 ways you can improve the likelihood of having a breakthrough in your life.

  1. Stick with It and Keep Fighting If You Want a Breakthrough

If you want a breakthrough in any area of your life, this usually will not happen quickly or easily. Sometimes a breakthrough can be pursued for years but never found. But those who do end getting the breakthrough that they seek usually do so because they did not lose hope and they kept fighting.

James 1:12 says, “Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him.” Galatians 6:9 also explains, “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.”

So if you are seeking a spiritual breakthrough, you have to keep pursuing God even during seasons of depression and despair. If you are seeking a career breakthrough, you have to keep applying no matter how many times you get rejected. If you are seeking a relationship breakthrough, you have to keep doing everything you can to receive the blessing you desire.

Everything good is by God’s grace, but God’s grace often causes us to work hard over long periods of time which then opens the doors for a breakthrough.

  1. Seek Truth to Guide You in Your Search for a Breakthrough

While persevering and working hard is key if you desire a breakthrough in your life, working hard is not enough. You also need to be working hard in the right ways. We must be guided by the truth the Lord provides in his word if we want a breakthrough. If you are doing the wrong things, it doesn’t matter how long or how hard you do those things.

Jesus said in John 8:31-32, “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” James 1:25 explains, “But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do.”

So if you want a breakthrough, you have to know the truth and then work hard to obey the truth. If you want a relationship breakthrough, maybe you need to address some character issues that are hindering your ability to interact well with the opposite sex. How can you correct this? You have to let the word of God convict and correct you and then work on those areas with God.

Or perhaps you want a spiritual breakthrough. If you are believing unbiblical lies you will not experience this breakthrough. You have to first know the truth, believe the truth, and then obey the truth. If you do this then you will eventually experience the spiritual breakthrough you seek.

  1. Seek the Lord with All Your Heart

If you really want a breakthrough in an area of your life that is deeply troubling you, you must fully depend on the Lord to accomplish this work. Of course there are always practical steps we need to take in life, but ultimately we need the Lord to open the doors that were formally shut.

If you are desiring a Christian marriage, only God can really produce that. If you are seeking a new job, only God can really provide that. And if you want to experience more of God’s presence, this will only happen by his grace alone.

Therefore we must seek God above all else. 2 Corinthians 3:16-17 states, “But whenever anyone turns to the Lord, the veil is taken away. Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.” Jeremiah 29:13 explains, “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”

When we seek the Lord with all of our being, he will open the doors he wants open and he will close the doors he wants closed. But whether we receive the breakthrough we want or not, when we are fully connected to God we will have everything we really need. Without God no breakthrough will be truly a breakthrough. The greatest breakthrough of all is when we finally realize God is the ultimate treasure we need.