4 Challenging Things God Will Use to Align You with The One

God will use difficult things in your life to help accomplish his will for you. This is also true when it comes to linking you with the right person in marriage one day.

Therefore, here are 4 challenging things that often happen when God is in the process of aligning you with the one, the person he wants you to marry.

1. If You Are Realizing You Have to Let Go of Someone You Thought Was The One, This Is a Good Sign God Is Helping You Align with the Real One He Has for You

Maybe you clicked on this article with a certain person in mind, hoping you would see signs that God is in fact bringing you two together. And perhaps the signs you will see in this article will confirm that God is indeed actually bringing you and that person together.

However, in many cases, Christian singles go through a phase where they think they know who they will marry one day but then God shows them that they were mistaken. Again, this may not be happening to you. I’m just pointing out that it is very common for this to happen. Usually, most of us think we’ve met the one only to be mistaken a few times before we actually meet the person God has for us.

This is very challenging. One of the hardest relationship trials you may have to go through before being aligned with the right person is to let go of someone who you thought was the right person. But take heart, if you feel God is allowing this challenging experience to occur in your life, he’s usually allowing this so you are free to meet the real person he has for you.

While you might struggle to believe you could be happy with anyone but this one person, remember that God’s ways are always better than our ways. If God has someone different for you than you expected, this also means he has someone better for you than you expected (Ephesians 3:20-21).

2. If You Have to Sacrifice One Relationship Desire to Experience the Fulfillment of a Different Relationship Desire, This Is a Good Sign God Is Aligning You with The One

Sometime two desires prevent each other from occurring. In other words, by trying to fulfill both desires, you will be unable to experience either.

For example, if you have a strong desire to marry someone who loves missions like you do but then you fall in love with a specific person who loves Jesus but doesn’t necessarily feel called to the mission field, you will have to make a choice. You can either reject this person you’ve come to love in hopes of finding another person you love but who also wants to be a missionary, or you can accept that perhaps God is not calling you marry someone who loves missions but who has other ministry passions.

Thousands of similar scenarios could be given. The point is sometimes you will be forced to make a choice between two good desires. You might think you can have it all. Maybe you can. Usually, however, when you meet a real person and you let go of the imaginary spouse in your mind, you end up realizing that you two will have to sacrifice certain things in order to be together.

This is challenging. However, just know, when you sacrifice for the person you love, it’s always worth it. Of course you shouldn’t have to completely let go of every desire you have just so you can be with someone. But there will always be real sacrifices made when true love is present (John 15:13).

3. If You Are Beginning to Face that One Fear that Has Directly Blocked You from a Healthy Relationship, This Is a Good Sign God Is Aligning You with The One

For some people, there is a general confusion to why there is a delay in meeting the one. There isn’t some glaring issue that they know is directly blocking this blessing from happening. For other people, however, they know there is a giant elephant in the spiritual room that they have been ignoring for years.

Perhaps you know you’ve never really taken the time to heal from the trauma that occurred to you in childhood. Or perhaps you know your secret sexual sin is so out of control that it would be impossible to have a godly marriage right now. Or maybe you’ve been fearful of socializing with the opposite sex throughout your whole life.

If you know there is a specific issue that is probably the main reason for the delay in experiencing a healthy Christian relationship, the Lord will empower you to confront this challenging issue in order to align you with your future spouse one day.

Pray that the Lord will help you search your own heart, that he might lead you into his will (Psalm 139:23-24).

4. If You Are Willing to Accept How Inadequate The One Is to Fulfill You Like You Thought They Would, This Is a Good Sign God Is Aligning You with The One

Maybe you have very realistic expectations when it comes to marriage. That is wonderful. It will be much easier for you to adjust when you meet the right person.

For most of us, however, there needs to be some shattering of expectations about marriage before we will be free to enjoy marriage as God intended. Yes, it is a blessing. But our spouse can never be the solution to the deepest problems we experience.

Jesus alone is our sustainer, our Savior (John 14:6). If you can let go of the unrealistic hopes that no human can fulfill but Jesus, you are in a much better position to be aligned with your future spouse.