There are not a ton of godly women walking around just waiting to be pursued by a godly man. Ironically, however, there are a lot of women who think they are godly and who think they want a godly man to pursue, but in reality, this type of woman is very hard to find . . . but not impossible!
Here are four marks you should look for if you are seeking to find a rare biblical woman sent by God.
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1. She Will Not Have Shifting Standards Based Upon Who’s Pursuing Her
A classic sign of a woman who thinks she is godly and who wants to present herself as godly, but who is actually not, is a woman who has high standards for guys she is not that attracted to, but very low standards for the guys she is attracted to.
In other words, her go-to response for most men who pursue her is that she will not sleep with them before marriage, she will not date them if they are not Christians, and she will only date a man who is prepared to be a godly husband. This is a good start, and this is what an actual godly woman should say. However, many women who say this will then compromise on these values when a guy pursues whom they are attracted to but who also lacks these qualities.
A rare biblical woman will reject any man – no matter how attractive, wealthy, or tall – if he is not a Christian, if he wants sex before marriage, and if he is not prepared to be a godly husband. Many women pretend they are just trying to help him and witness to him. But why do they seem to only do this for the guys they are attracted to? Why not for the other worldly guys who they are not attracted to? They need Jesus, too, right? For many women, it’s just a cover-up and excuse so they can deny their conscience and go with a worldly guy (1 Peter 2:16)
Big picture, a rare woman acts differently. She does have high standards, but those standards don’t change based on who’s pursuing her. She does need to be attracted to a man, but she won’t compromise for a man just because she is attracted to him.
2. She Will Make a Man Work Before Giving Him Her Heart
If she makes it too easy for you at first, you should be wary. I’m not saying she should play games, give you mixed signals, or play hard to get. However, a biblical woman will be cautious with her heart (Proverbs 4:23). She’s not going to be reckless in relationships. She will be open to finding love, but she’s not going to follow a man on impulse.
Thus, if she is not guarded around you at all when you first start pursuing her, that is actually not a great sign because it also means she’s probably not been very guarded around other men either.
You can’t have it both ways. If you are the type of guy who complains about how much women sleep around and date a bunch of guys before marriage, you can’t then also be the guy who complains about how guarded Christian women act, too.
Again, she needs to be open to your pursuit and inviting, but don’t be surprised when a rare godly woman wants to take things slow before fully opening her heart to you.
3. She Will Be Clear About Her Feelings for You
The beauty about a rare godly woman is that the time she takes in the early phases allows her to go faster in the later seasons. Once she has guarded her heart long enough to know that you are trustworthy, she will then feel released by God to open her heart up to you. Like Ruth, who saw Boaz’s qualities and then knew she wanted to be with him (Ruth 3), this type of woman isn’t going to be giving you mixed signals.
If she doesn’t like you, she’s not going to keep you as a close friend and string you along for months or years. And if she does like you, she will be open and inviting, happy when you pursue, and excited when you show interest.
In other words, a rare godly woman is not going to be hot and cold towards you. She will be clear.
4. She Will Be Hard to Find But Not Hard to Recognize
I know, I know! Many of you guys are saying, “Mark, this is a unicorn! A woman like this doesn’t exist!”
The reality is, there are no unicorns out there. There’s no perfect woman who will be everything you ever wanted. But there are rare biblical women who actually love the Lord, who are not sleeping around, and who are prepared to be a godly wife to a godly man.
So yes, these women are hard to find (Proverbs 31:10). But, they are not hard to recognize (Philippians 2:15)! Once you do find this type of woman, it will be very obvious. If you’re wondering if she actually loves the Lord, she doesn’t. Real Christians don’t hide their love for Jesus.
Now here’s the harsh truth that many of you don’t want to hear. This doesn’t apply to all of you. In fact, the ones who actually need to hear what I’m about to say are not likely to receive it. And for those to whom this applies less, you will probably take this to heart too much.
Anyways, knowing many of you will mishandle this statement, I’m still going to say it because a few of you will receive it, and it may just change your life. Here goes: The real reason you can’t find a godly woman is because you are not a godly man.
It’s a lot easier to talk about unicorns than to look yourself in the mirror and admit the personal blockers keeping you from being attractive to one of these rare women. Godly men don’t waste their time complaining. They solve problems and overcome obstacles. Yes, it’s hard out there. It’s true, most women are nuts and don’t love Jesus. But the fact is, most guys are just as lost. Their issues are different, but they don’t have less issues. If you’re actually a godly man, there are enough godly women out there for you to marry one. There are so few real Christians these days on both sides, the real ones will notice each other quickly once they finally meet.
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