If you’re a Christian single woman who has feelings for a Christian single man, Satan wants to mess this up.
Whether God wants you and this man together or whether God wants you with a different man, Satan certainly wants to use your current feelings for his evil agenda, which is to decrease your joy in the Lord and block you from the good gifts God wants to give you.
Therefore, here are five things Satan wants you to do if you are a woman who likes a Christian man.
1. Satan Wants You to Idolize the Christian Man You Like
There’s a big difference between idolizing a man and just being excited about him, liking him, or being attracted to him. When we idolize someone, we are allowing them to occupy more space in our hearts than is healthy. We don’t just have a healthy desire for this person; rather, we are allowing them to replace the Lord in our lives.
Instead of knowing happiness comes from Christ, you may start believing you can only be truly happy if this man falls in love with you. Satan loves this because whenever we idolize someone, not only does this hurt our walk with God, which is the worst thing that can happen, but it also hurts our relationship with this person.
The only place left to go for someone you have idolized is down. They will know they are not the person you think they are. And in time, you will know they are not the person you thought they were. By asking them to be what they can never be, you miss out on what they could be to you. It hurts them and you.
This is why Satan really wants you to idolize the man you like. This will keep you two apart, it will make things very difficult if you do get together, and it will block you from the good blessings the Lord has for you.
As Jonah 2:8 states, “Those who pay regard to vain idols forsake their hope of steadfast love.”
2. Satan Wants You to Ignore the Christian Man You Like
Ignoring the man you like is a defense mechanism against the fear of getting hurt. Some Christian women justify ignoring a man and say, “It’s the man’s job to pursue. If God really wants us together, the man will pursue me.” While that is true, it’s also only part of the story. In addition to a man’s pursuit, a relationship also requires a woman’s response.
Just as you are seeking God’s direction about this man, so too is this Christian man seeking God’s direction about you. And just as you will see this man’s pursuit as a sign from God that this could be something good for you, so too will this man see your positive responses to his pursuit as God’s sign that this could be good for him.
Additionally, for a man to pursue a woman, he needs to have opportunities. This is why a woman must be present in the man’s life if she ever wants him to pursue. Like Ruth who was in Boaz’s field, so too must a Christian woman be in the presence of the man she wants to pursue her (Ruth 2:3).
3. Satan Wants You to Pressure the Christian Man You Like
The heart often works a lot faster than the mind. This is why so many women are often ready to be pursued by the man that they like before this man is fully ready to pursue her. While men and women both use their hearts and minds, it’s also true that a man often relies more on his logic and a woman often relies more on her intuition.
God can use both the man’s logic and the woman’s intuition. However, for a man to check the right logical boxes about a woman before opening his heart to her, this often takes more time because he needs to gather evidence from real-life experiences with her.
Even if his heart wants to pursue her, his mind often needs more time. Therefore, Satan often tempts Christian women to be impatient. She may then begin to put pressure on the man by pursuing him rather than being inviting. She may also begin to express her feelings before he does, which often pushes him away because he doesn’t want to hurt her and he’s not sure how he feels yet.
Proverbs 19:2, “Desire without knowledge is not good, and whoever makes haste with his feet misses his way.
4. Satan Wants You to Endlessly Wait for the Christian Man You Like
While you should be patient with the Christian man you like, you also must never allow this man to waste your time. He might not be trying to waste your time, but if you’re not careful, you could get stuck waiting for a man much longer than is needed.
Satan always wants us to waste our time because our time is such a valuable gift from the Lord. God has a good plan for your life. And while you might need to wait and be patient for some of the good things he wants to give you, big picture, life is meant to be lived. If you are just waiting and not progressing forward because you’re waiting for a guy to pursue you, this is not a good sign.
When God wants you to wait for a man, that waiting will be producing good fruit and movement forward. The waiting will help you and this man grow closer as you build a foundation for the future. When Satan wants you to wait for a guy, you will be regressing, not bearing good fruit, and the relationship with this man will be getting weaker the longer you wait.
Psalm 90:12, “So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom.”
5. Satan Wants You to Assume Nothing Can Happen with the Christian Man You Like
The devil loves hopelessness. When we don’t allow our hearts to have healthy hopes, it’s like we are walking through life blindfolded from seeing all the blessings God wants to give us. To receive many of the good things God wants to give us, we have to walk through doors he’s opening. Thus, if you assume God will never open certain doors, you will miss your chances.
Hope is intimately connected to love (1 Corinthians 13:7). Satan wants to block you from love by tempting you to be hopeless.
