The word limerence may sound modern, but the experience it describes is as old as humanity. Coined by psychologist Dorothy Tennov in the 1970s, limerence refers to an intense emotional and obsessive infatuation with another person—usually romantic in nature. It often involves intrusive thoughts, idealization, and a longing for reciprocation. In plain terms, it’s when your mind becomes consumed by someone you believe could complete you.
If you’re a single Christian woman hoping for marriage one day, it’s natural to wonder if a man showing interest in you might be “the one.” But just because someone pursues you doesn’t mean they deserve your time, your energy, or your heart. The truth is, giving attention to the wrong man can delay or even prevent you from meeting the right one God has for you.
Jesus said, “For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also” (Matthew 6:21).
When a Christian man is trying to decide if God wants him to pursue a particular woman or not, he will do many things that you would expect, like pray, apply the Scriptures, and examine the reality of his relationship with you.
If you want God to bless your relationship with a man, there are certain things you must never do for that man. You may want to do some of these things for him because it could feel like an act of love, but in reality, by not doing certain things for a man, you are loving him even better.
Anyone who wants their life to change in a dramatic way has to go through “the lonely chapters.”
Life is filled with relationships—family, friends, co-workers, church members, and even casual acquaintances. While many of these relationships are God’s blessings, there are times when Scripture makes it clear that removing someone from your life may be the wisest and most obedient step to take.
Finding the person God has prepared for you is not only about meeting the right person at the right time, it’s also about God preparing your heart to recognize them when they appear.
When it comes to waiting for the right person, one of the hardest truths for many Christian singles to accept is that God often hides our future spouse until the right time. Just like the seasons of nature, God has appointed different seasons in our lives that shape us, prepare us, and align us with his purposes. Ecclesiastes 3:1 reminds us, “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.”
In the Christian dating world, advice is everywhere. Some of it is biblical and wise, but some of it, though well-intentioned, actually hurts your chances of forming a genuine connection with a godly woman.