Have you been content in singleness for years, but all of a sudden, you’ve begun to experience an increased desire to be married one day?
Were you the type of person who said something like, “I’m fine either way. I would be happy to get married if the right person came along, but I would also be happy to remain single, too”? And yet, now, if you were being completely honest with yourself, something has shifted, and you would say, “I really want to be married and would be sad if I remained single forever”?
If so, why is this happening? What is God up to? In this article, we will discuss 4 possible reasons why God is suddenly increasing your desire for marriage.
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1. If You Are Being Transformed More and More Into God’s Pre-Fall Intentions for Humans, Oftentimes Your Desire for Marriage Will Increase
This point certainly does not apply to everyone. Some people will be walking with God and growing in the Spirit and will sense that God has indeed called them to a life of singleness.
However, in many instances, the more you come back to God’s original design for you as a human, the more you will realize you were actually created to be paired with another human in marriage.
In other words, the call to singleness is biblical, but not everyone who wants to be single is pursuing singleness for biblical reasons. Many times, people say they want to be single because deep down they are afraid of getting hurt in a relationship; or they fear that God isn’t going to give them the desires of their heart, so they protect themselves by not getting their hopes up.
But as someone like this matures and heals in the Lord, their God-given healthy desires begin to bubble to the surface. Remember, a desire for marriage is not a result of the fall. God gave Adam and Eve a desire for marriage before sin entered the picture (Genesis 2:18).
So don’t be surprised if your spiritual sanctification and healing also result in a deepening longing for marriage.
2. If You’re Becoming More Masculine or Feminine Due to Your Study of Scripture, Oftentimes Your Desire for Marriage Will Increase
Before we repent of our sins and come to Christ, we are living in the world (Ephesians 2:1-3). Throughout different eras in human history, Satan has led the world into different forms of sin. In times past, there was a legalistic dominance where men and women were stuck in rigid, unbiblical boxes.
However, in our day and age, that has not been Satan’s ploy. Rather, in this era of human history, Satan has led the world into total gender chaos. Rather than restricting men and women through legalism, Satan has now tempted men and women with an unbiblical liberalism. Instead of having too many restrictions on men and women, there is now a rejection of all biblical gender principles.
Thus, as someone disconnects from the world and starts studying the Scriptures, they will realize that God has made men and women different on purpose (Genesis 1:27). While men and women are equal in value, they are not supposed to be the same.
If you’re a woman, God has put a beautiful feminine spirit in you. This doesn’t mean you have to love wearing makeup and the color pink. But it does mean your heart and spirit must be distinctly feminine. Likewise, if you’re a man, this doesn’t mean you have to love fixing cars and camping in the woods. But it does mean your heart and spirit must be distinctly masculine.
And when you start embracing your gender qualities, oftentimes this awakens your appreciation for the other gender. When a man and woman come together in a biblical way, they experience their own gender identity more deeply because the masculine or feminine in their partner will enhance the masculine or feminine in them.
3. If the Ministry Reason for Your Singleness Is Beginning to Pass, Oftentimes Your Desire for Marriage Will Begin to Increase
No matter what season of life we are in, God has a purpose for us, which is to glorify him. But in each season, we glorify him in different ways.
Depending on the current calling you have, sometimes you are better equipped to serve the Lord in singleness. However, what many people don’t realize is that our callings can change. Sometimes you lack a desire for marriage because your current ministry assignment from God requires you to be single. But if God is giving you a new assignment, he will sometimes also show you that you would now serve him better with a partner.
When you read 1 Corinthians 7, the call to singleness or marriage is really determined by answering this question: “Will singleness or marriage help me serve God better?”
4. If You’ve Met the Person God Wants You to Marry One Day, Oftentimes Your Desire for Marriage Will Increase
That may seem obvious, but sometimes people believe they are called to singleness until they meet the person they will marry. In other words, one reason many people lack a desire for marriage is simply that they haven’t met the right person yet. But once they meet that person, God awakens the romantic desires within them that they may never have realized were there to begin with.
Song of Solomon states not to awaken love until it so desires. When you meet the person God wants you to marry, that is the time for your love to begin to awaken.
If you find yourself in a season of transition when it comes to your relationship desires, then AGW University might be a great fit for you. This is where I offer my relationship training courses specifically for Christian singles who want to glorify the Lord in marriage one day.
And for everyone who enrolls in AGW University before the April 20th deadline, you will receive a 50% off scholarship, regardless of whether you enroll in the Total Access bundle or if you just enroll in one course. At checkout, use code: 50%OFF
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