5 Biblical Marks of a Man Who Would Be a Great Husband

Whether you are a Christian single woman who wants to be married to a godly man, or you are a Christian man who wants to make sure he’s ready to honor a wife in marriage one day, here are 5 biblical marks of a man who would be a great husband.

1. A Man Will Be a Great Husband When He Is Marked By Humility

No one can be great in God’s kingdom without first putting himself last. As Jesus taught us:

But whoever would be great among you must be your servant, and whoever would be first among you must be slave of all. For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” (Mark 10:43-45)

Before God can lift a man up to be used in powerful ways, God will first break him down so he will be submissive all of his days. When power comes, pride tempts a man to sabotage his entire life. In love, God won’t bless a man with true power until he has been truly humbled.

What does humility look like in a man who’s ready to be a great husband? First, this man is committed to growing. He doesn’t assume he knows everything already. He’s reading books, watching sermons, looking for mentors, and repenting of his sins. Next, he values everyone, even when they can’t immediately benefit him. Lastly, he offers grace to others because he knows how much grace he has already received from God.

2. A Man Will Be a Great Husband When He Is Marked By a Fierce Commitment to Truth

Happy wife, happy life? Maybe. Maybe not. It depends on what you mean. Yes, a miserable woman will fill your home with unhappiness (Proverbs 21:19). But if you think your life will be happy by always submitting to your wife’s wishes, you are mistaken. She will not be a happy wife if you are not a husband who loves her enough to make her unhappy sometimes. Love isn’t about making the other person happy. Love is about doing what’s best for someone, no matter the cost to yourself (John 15:13).

Proverbs 27:6, “Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.” Truth is essential if you want a joyful relationship. And sometimes the truth doesn’t feel good right away. But whenever a man forsakes truth for convenience, something in him dies, which also causes something in the relationship with the woman to die as well.

In his unwillingness to put her above God and the truth, she will then know she can trust him and submit to his leadership.

3. A Man Will Be a Great Husband When He Is Marked By a Focused Life

A man who is drifting and unclear is not prepared to lead a wife and family. He doesn’t need to know what will happen in the future, but he does need to know where he is aiming at for his future.

He will have godly goals that keep him focused in life. As Paul said in Philippians 3:13-15, “But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Let those of us who are mature think this way . . .”

4. A Man Will Be a Great Husband When He Is Marked By Leadership Through Self-Sacrifice

The reason the world hates the idea of a wife submitting to her husband is that they have a wrong view of true, godly leadership. Again, as Jesus said, God’s leaders are those who choose to die first for those they lead (Mark 10:42-45).

Only when a man knows how to put a woman before himself is he worthy of a woman choosing to submit to him (Ephesians 5:24-25).

5. A Man Will Be a Great Husband When He Is Marked By the Joyful Duty of Glorifying God

In Jeremiah 32:39 (NLT), God said, “And I will give them one heart and one purpose: to worship me forever, for their own good and for the good of all their descendants.”

A man on mission who is prepared to be a great husband has learned the core biblical truth that to glorify God is to experience the most fulfilling life possible.