5 Biblical Ways a Godly Husband Will Help Your Relationship with Jesus

There’s so much cynicism nowadays about relationships, it can be tempting to think marriage is more trouble than it’s worth. If you are a Christian single woman, the world will yell at you, “You don’t need a man!”

In one way, this is true. The only one you need on the deepest level is God himself. Through Jesus, we are blessed with everything (Ephesians 1:3). And yet, God himself is the one who has designed the male and female heart to be interdependent (Genesis 2:18), which is different than being codependent.

When you are codependent, you are using someone in an unhealthy, imbalanced way. They have become a crutch for you, limiting your ability to operate in the freedom God wants you to experience as an individual. However, being interdependent is when we are embracing our God-given need for community. When a man and woman are in a healthy interdependent relationship, they both will be functioning in the biblical gender roles that complement each other in a beautiful partnership.

So in this article, we will discuss 5 biblical ways a husband will help his wife’s relationship with Jesus. I’m talking to single women here, using these points to help them locate the right type of guy the Lord wants them with. This is meant to be an encouragement to help motivate you to pursue a healthy relationship rather than giving into the culture’s cynicism about relationships.

1. A Godly Husband Will Bless You Spiritually By Sharing the Load with You

Scripture tells us that we must never be “unequally yoked” (2 Corinthians 6:14). We know this primarily means that God does not want us partnering with unbelievers if we are Christians. However, have you ever really taken a step back to think about this imagery of being equally yoked versus unequally yoked?

The farmer would try to pair two similar oxen together under one yoke because if he didn’t, they would do a terrible job in plowing the field. If one was shorter or slower than the other, the load would not be equally dispersed. The weight would hang awkwardly off their backs. One would be ahead of the other. It just doesn’t work! But when the farmer puts two similar oxen under one yoke, they can share the load. They can work longer and harder in plowing the field because they are a team that fits together.

This is why God wants a man and woman to be equally yoked. Marriage isn’t just about fun and looking at each other. God has work for you to do. If you are not equally paired, this hurts your walk with God and makes you less effective. However, when you are paired with someone who loves God like you, you will be able to accomplish twice as much together.

As 1 Peter 3:7 (NLT) states, “In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.”

2. A Godly Husband Will Help Your Walk with God By Growing with You

For most people, when it comes to physical fitness, having a workout partner is a huge benefit. When you don’t feel like going to the gym but you know your partner is counting on you to be there, it motivates you to ignore your feelings and make the right choice. When you are struggling to get that lest rep up, their encouragement can give you that extra little boost. When you’re lifting heavy weights, they can help spot you so you don’t get injured.

Likewise, when we partner with other people spiritually in our desire to grow, this helps in huge ways. If you have a godly husband, he will help you stay accountable to church and Bible study attendance. When you see him reading his Bible, it will encourage you to read yours too. When you are struggling or spiritually tired, he can be there to pray for you.

And not only that, but you will get to do these things for him as well. Being a spiritual encouragement to him will increase your joy in the Lord.

1 Thessalonians 5:11, “Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.” To be clear, you don’t need a husband to be encouraged by others. We all need community, whether we are single or married. But marriage does provide a huge blessing in his area.

3. A Godly Husband Will Help Your Walk with God By Protecting You

Ecclesiastes 4:12 (NLT) says, “A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” You, your husband, and the Holy Spirit can form a triple-braided cord.

One of the husband’s special assignments by God is that he gets to protect his wife. While a wife will help protect her husband in many ways too, the man will be leading in this area. As a woman, it will be a great blessing to you to know that a man has your back. He will be able to smell out the wolves with you. You both will be able to take counsel together to avoid falling into the traps of the devil, the world, and the flesh.

4. A Godly Husband Will Help Your Walk with God By Providing for You

Protection and provision do have earthly elements to them. A husband is called to physically protect his wife and physically provide for her as well. But we should not assume these material blessings don’t also have spiritual benefits.

When we have food to eat, a house to live in, and a safe environment to enjoy, it gives our minds and hearts the freedom to relax and soak in the presence of God. When you’re always just trying to survive in this harsh world, that can take a toll on you spiritually too.

Ephesians 5:28-29 (NLT), “In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church.”

5. A Godly Husband Will Help You Spiritually Because He Will Help You Embrace Your Femininity More

We don’t need to be married to embrace our God given genders. However, as a woman who is living in a hard and cruel world, it can be a temptation for you to forsake some of your femininity and trade it in for masculinity. You do have to protect yourself sometimes when you don’t have a man there to do that. To succeed in the workplace, sometimes you do get rewarded by being less gentle and projecting more strength.

I’m not saying it’s wrong for a woman to act like this sometimes when necessary. The point I’m making is that for many single women, it’s hard to turn those traits off when they are no longer needed. Sometimes a woman takes the toughness needed in her workplace and then brings that into her social interactions. She ends up projecting things that, if she was aware, she would prefer not to project.

This is one of the benefits for men and women to partner with each other. His masculinity and her femininity are meant to enhance one another and balance each other out.

Again, this article is not about feeling bad if you don’t have a husband. Rather, this is meant to offset Satan’s and the culture’s lies about love. Yes, relationships are hard work and they produce a lot of extra drama in your life. But they are also a powerful gift from God that he wants you to enjoy if you have that calling (Genesis 2:18).

As Proverbs 14:4 (NLT) explains, “Without oxen a stable stays clean, but you need a strong ox for a large harvest.”