Jesus said, “For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also” (Matthew 6:21).
The things a woman owns often reveal what she values most. While no one is perfect, there are certain items that signal deeper issues of belief, spiritual openness, or misplaced priorities. If you see these in her life, take them as red flags that may save you pain and protect your walk with Christ.
1. Occult Objects (Ouija Boards, Crystals, Tarot Cards)
“What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever?” (2 Corinthians 6:15).
Items like Ouija boards, crystals for “energy,” or tarot cards are more than innocent trinkets—they represent open doors to demonic influence. When a woman clings to these, it’s like storing poisonous snakes in her home, believing they won’t eventually bite her.
Just as fire in a dry forest spreads uncontrollably, dabbling in the occult never stays small—it consumes everything it touches.
While you may want to help her repent of these sins, even if she does listen to your warnings, I would highly recommend you don’t jump into a dating relationship with this type of woman. If you are a Christian man looking for a godly wife, a woman like this is not ready. Maybe one day she could develop into that, but if she is just now realizing that occult items are bad, that shows she’s not anywhere close to being spiritually mature enough for a godly marriage.
2. Horoscope Books or Zodiac Merchandise
“You are wearied with your many counsels; let them stand forth and save you, those who divide the heavens, who gaze at the stars, who at the new moons make known what shall come upon you!” (Isaiah 47:13).
A woman obsessed with horoscopes or astrology is seeking direction from the stars rather than the Creator of the stars. It signals misplaced trust and confusion about spiritual authority.
It’s like trying to use a broken compass on a hike—you’ll end up lost, hurt, and far from your destination. God alone directs our paths (Proverbs 3:5–6). A woman who relies on Scripture rather than the zodiac will be a steady partner on the narrow road of faith.
3. Worldly Romance Novels
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” (Proverbs 4:23).
Romance novels often promote unrealistic expectations, lust, and fantasy-driven intimacy. If a woman fills her mind with these stories, she may approach relationships with distorted ideas that no man can fulfill.
It’s like feeding on candy for every meal—sweet at first but ultimately leaving you weak, sick, and malnourished. True love is not fantasy but sacrificial (1 Corinthians 13). Look for a woman who feasts on God’s word, not counterfeit depictions of love.
4. Collections of Party-Culture Memorabilia (Shot Glasses, Risqué Posters, Club Outfits)
“Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company ruins good morals.’” (1 Corinthians 15:33).
If her room, closet, or social media is filled with signs of a party lifestyle, it reveals her heart is still tethered to the world. Such tokens point to a love for drunkenness, immodesty, and the pursuit of fleshly thrills.
It’s like anchoring your boat to a sinking ship—you’ll be dragged down with it. A godly woman will not boast in past sins but will walk in newness of life (Romans 6:4). Seek a woman who displays modesty, sobriety, and dignity.
5. Books, Bumper Stickers, or Other Materials Mocking God’s Design (Feminist Manifestos, Anti-Biblical “Self-Empowerment” Guides)
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church.” (Ephesians 5:22–23).
Not all “self-help” is harmless. Some books teach rebellion against God’s design for men and women. If she fills her mind with messages that undermine biblical order in relationships, she will struggle to respect and support a godly man.
It’s like planting seeds of weeds in a garden—you may not see the damage immediately, but over time they choke out healthy fruit. A godly woman doesn’t despise God’s design; she flourishes within it, knowing true strength is found in Christ.
While none of us are without past sins or struggles, what she treasures today will shape your tomorrow if you link up with her. Remember the warning of 1 John 2:15: “Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.”
Here’s a related article called 4 Biblical Markers that Mean a Woman Would Be a Curse Rather than a Blessing if You Let Her Into Your Life.
