Here are 5 things that often happen when God is telling a man to stop waiting for a certain woman and fully move on from her.
1. If She’s with Another Man Right Now, Stop Waiting and Fully Move On
“But maybe things won’t work out, and then God will let me get into a relationship with her.” Brother, just stop. Don’t be that guy.
If a woman has chosen to be with another man, that means she is choosing not to be with you. God doesn’t want you to see yourself as a woman’s plan B.
Now, is it possible that the woman you will marry one day is currently dating someone else, but that relationship will end and then you two will become a couple? Of course that is possible. My only caution is that you should not be waiting for a woman who is currently dating someone else.
She may marry that man. She may breakup with that guy and the start dating a different guy who is also not you. The point is, we must live in reality (Ephesians 5:15-17, Peter 5:8). If she’s with someone else now, fully accept that and move on. If things change later on, so be it. May God’s will be done. But don’t wait for a woman that is clearly not waiting for you.
2. If You’ve Already Pursued Her But She’s Clearly Rejected You, Stop Waiting and Fully Move On
I do think it’s possible for a woman to reject a man, but then she starts liking him, and so a man should try to pursue her again. I have seen that happen multiple times. However, whenever that does happen, the woman will somehow make it clear that her feelings have changed. She will start acting different in obvious ways so the man has real evidence he should try to pursue her again.
In the vast majority of instances, if a woman rejects a man after he openly pursued her, that man should fully move on and not wait for her feelings to change. You don’t have to make her your enemy. But you should definitely stop focusing on her and spend your relationship energy elsewhere.
When a relationship is truly God-ordained, both the man and woman will want the other person. If it’s not mutual, it’s not from God (Genesis 2:28, Genesis 24:8).
3. If She Just Wants to Be Your Friend, Stop Waiting and Move On
A lot of guys end up waiting for a woman they really like because she is showing him attention; however, the problem is that she’s clearly showing him “friendship” attention. Some women crave a male friend while they are waiting for the right guy to come along to be more than a friend. She may enjoy your emotional attention. But if she’s clearly friend-zoned you and you want to be more than friends, you should stop waiting.
There’s nothing wrong with trying to start out as friends. A lot of great relationships start there. But don’t lie to yourself. You’re not looking for a best friend that’s a woman. You’re looking for a wife. The longer you waste your time with a woman who just wants to be your friend, the longer you are staying away from the woman who wants to be more than a friend with you.
The truth is, once your friend meets a man she wants to date, your friendship is going to change anyways. Don’t waste your time settling for friendship just because you wish you could be something more.
Ask the Lord for what you really want (Matthew 7:7). And then obey him by not spending your time focusing on what he’s already said no to.
4. If She Gave You Some Hope but She Keeps Pushing You Away Once Things Get Serious, Stop Waiting and Move On
Some women are just players. They like male attention and will give you little glimmers of hope that you two will date one day, but for one reason or another, when things start getting serious, she will always have some excuse. She will distance herself, but then she always comes back, looking for more emotional validation from you.
If a woman is just stringing you along, just know she’s probably doing this to a bunch of other guys too. She disappears when she starts dating someone, but then comes back to her hoard of followers when she feels bad about herself and wants to feel liked again. Don’t be one of her followers. Move on and stop waiting if she is just giving you the runaround (Proverbs 3:28).
5. If You’ve Have Had Plenty of Time to Make a Move but for Some Reason You Haven’t, Stop Waiting. Do Something or Move On
Do you always have a reason have for not making a move? If so, just accept you’re never going to pursue this woman and fully move on. The truth is, when you meet the woman God wants you to marry, you’re going to pursue her (Proverbs 16:9). How else will the relationship become a reality? If you don’t ever pursue a woman, that means she’s clearly not the one for you.
If you think a woman could be the one for you, then you need stop waiting. You need to pursue her!
Not sure how? Here’s a related article called How to Pursue a Woman.
