A man’s attraction towards a woman seems so unpredictable. Sure, worldly men will immediately be drawn to a woman’s outward beauty. But what about that deep attraction a godly man has that goes beyond the physical?
I’m not saying physical attraction isn’t important to a Christian man. As a Christian woman, I know you would never want to be married to a man who you aren’t attracted to either. However, if a man is truly following the Lord, he will not let himself fall for a woman if he is just attracted to her appearance.
So in this article, we will discuss 5 very attractive traits in a woman that a Christian man immediately notices.
1. A Godly Man Immediately Notices When a Woman Doesn’t Overemphasize Her Physical Beauty
Remember, I’m talking about godly men who are looking for a Christian wife to serve the Lord with. When it comes to these types of men and physical attraction, less is more.
Why? It’s not that their eyes are less visually stimulated by a woman’s body, makeup, or outfits compared to a worldly man. Rather, it’s that a true godly man will actually look at a woman less if she is dressing in such a way that is meant to stimulate his natural sexual cravings (1 Corinthians 6:18). He wants to marry a woman he finds beautiful, but in the meantime, he’s doesn’t want to be infatuated with a woman who has simply captivated his natural senses.
The biblical trait I’m really referring to here is modesty (1 Peter 3:3-6). A godly man can immediately tell if a woman is dressing modestly or seductively.
For more on this, you can read this article: How to Dress if You Want to Attract a Godly Guy
2. A Godly Man Immediately Notices When a Woman Knows Her Purpose and Is Content in the Lord
A woman who knows her purpose has an internal security that radiates all around her. A man feels it. He senses she’s not looking to him to be her god. She’s not hunting for a husband like a person stranded on an island in desperate need of rescue. This type of woman is inviting and open to a relationship, but she doesn’t need a man to complete her life. She’s already whole in the Lord and she simply desires a partner to serve God with.
Think of the Provers 31 woman. She knows her charm can be deceptive and she knows her beauty can be used to win a man (Proverbs 31:30a); but she also knows those strategies lead to a dead end. She knows her true joy can only be found in the Lord (Proverbs 31:30b).
3. A Godly Man Immediately Notices When a Woman Is Ready for a Partner
If you’re trying to protect yourself from getting hurt again by closing yourself off from all men’s pursuit, a godly man will sense this. You will be projecting signs that say “closed.” However, when a woman is in a healthy place within herself, this naturally flows out of her as well. She will send signs that say, “I’m not open to everyone. But if you’re the right type of guy, feel free to pursue me and I’ll at least give you a chance.”
As Jesus said, “But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart . . .” (Matthew 15:18). Thus, if you want a mature Christian man to see you and pursue you, the first step is to get ready in your heart so you actually want a partner and are ready to be a partner. What is in you will naturally come out of you and communicate important messages to others around you.
4. A Man Immediately Notices When a Woman Enjoys Him
A true godly man will want a wife and family so he can sacrificially love them through service. Yes, he is called to lead; but leadership in the Bible is always servant-leadership. As Jesus said in Mark 10:43-44, “But whoever would be great among you must be your servant, and whoever would be first among you must be slave of all.”
In return for this type of sacrificial leadership, a man really just wants to be appreciated and enjoyed. He doesn’t need a woman to treat him in the exact same ways he is treating her. However, he does want her affection and enjoyment of him to be expressed to a level that matches his sacrifice.
Like Paul said, it’s really about love and respect (Ephesians 5:33). A man wants to love a woman that respects him.
5. A Man Immediately Notices When a Woman Believes in Him
As Christians, it’s easy to misunderstand this idea of “believing in each other.” Of course, spiritually, we only believe in Jesus as our Savior. And we also know that all humans are fallen, thus none of us will always be deserving of total trust.
So when I say that a man is attracted to a woman who believes in him, I’m really just talking about an encouraging woman who supports his passions and desires. When he knows you have his back and you believe that God has a good plan for his life, he will love being around you.
Proverbs 14:1, “The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.” You can either use your words to build a man up and encourage him to do great things for the Lord, or you can use your words to doubt him and discourage the dreams the Lord has put on his heart.
A godly man is looking for a supportive, encouraging woman who really believes in him.
How will you know when God is revealing your future husband to you? This process can actually be pretty uncomfortable. What do I mean by that? Here are 4 Uncomfortable Things that Will Happen When God Reveals Your Future Husband to You.
