5 Ways God Is Positioning You to Find the Love of Your Life

Before God introduces you to “the love of your life,” meaning the person he wants you to marry one day, he will prepare you for this in very clear ways.

God doesn’t just want you to be in a happy little relationship. Rather, God wants you and your future spouse to have a deep love for each other that shows the world God’s love for his church.

Therefore, to prepare you for this high calling, God will position you to properly receive the blessing of meeting the love of your life. Here are five ways he often does this.

1. If Your “List” Is Shortening While Also Becoming More Uncompromising, God Is Probably Positioning You to Meet the Love of Your Life

When you are single and longing to meet the one, you absolutely need a list of requirements you want your future spouse to have. This list will help guide you towards the right person, and it will help protect you from getting involved with the wrong people.

However, many Christians prioritize the wrong things on their list. They compromise where they shouldn’t, and they don’t compromise where they should. This is why God so often refines our list as a way of positioning us to meet the right person. But in refining our list, he is also reinforcing our commitment to the qualities that remain on this list.

In other words, to position you to meet the love of your life, God will teach you to major on the majors and to minor on the minors. He will show you the difference between a need and a want that you can let go of. He will show you what is biblically required to have a successful relationship compared to what is a personal desire that you don’t actually need to be happy with someone.

Therefore, pray about your list. Ask the Lord to give you an uncompromising commitment to the biblical values needed for a glorifying marriage while giving you a spirit of acceptance and grace on qualities you didn’t expect your future spouse to possess.

Allow the Scriptures to guide your list, for as 2 Timothy 3:16-17 states, “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.”

2. If You’re Doing More While Trying Less, God Is Probably Positioning You to Meet the Love of Your Life

Many times Christians get blocked from their blessing because they want something really bad on the inside while doing very little to receive that blessing on the outside. However, when God begins to move in someone’s life, there is usually an odd combination of doing more on the outside while surrendering the results more on the inside.

When God is positioning you to meet the love of your life, it will be both an internal and an external positioning. Internally, you will be fully submitted to the will of God. You will have died to the outcomes, meaning that you are fully committed to following Christ no matter what does or doesn’t happen when you obey his leading. And yet, on the outside, you will be invigorated to actually do things in reality that would lead to the tangible blessings you are hoping will be produced in your life one day.

As Paul described in 1 Corinthians 15:10, “But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace toward me was not in vain. On the contrary, I worked harder than any of them, though it was not I, but the grace of God that is with me.”

3. If You’re Becoming More Aware of Your Inability to Find Love Without God Doing It, He Is Probably Positioning You to Meet the Love of Your Life

When something is humanly impossible, God loves to show up because then he gets all the glory. This is what happened in John 2 at the wedding of Cana. Jesus didn’t turn the water into wine until their wine had completely run out, “When the wine ran out, the mother of Jesus said to him, ‘They have no wine’” (John 2:3).

The wine wasn’t about to run out. The wine wasn’t almost gone. The wine had run out. It was completely gone. Mary then went to Jesus. Likewise, God often uses our complete emptiness and inability to produce the miracle he wants to produce in our lives.

When there is no other option, when we’ve exhausted all viable solutions, and still we don’t have what we desire, it is here that God is often positioning us for his blessing.

As Jesus said in Luke 18:27, “What is impossible with man is possible with God.”

4. If You’re Being So Filled with the Love of God that You Are Ready to Serve in a Radical Way, God Is Probably Positioning You to Meet the Love of Your Life

If you want to meet the love of your life, then you must not only be seeking the love you crave, but you must also be seeking to give the love you have received. If you are an empty sponge looking to soak up the love you desire, God’s purpose for your future marriage will never be accomplished. Rather than receive the filling your empty heart craves, marriage is meant to give away the love you are receiving from the Holy Spirit (Romans 5:5).

In the sacrificing and giving, however, you then receive an even greater joy than you never thought possible (Acts 20:35).

Ephesians 5:22, 25, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord . . . Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her . . .” You can never offer this type of sacrifice until you are filled with the love of God to give away.

5. If You Are Becoming More Content in Christ than You’ve Ever Been, God Is Probably Positioning You to Meet the Love of Your Life

Ironically, the more content you are in Christ without a spouse, the more ready you are to receive a spouse. As we talked about in point 4, successful marriages are all about two people serving each other. And the only way you can offer this type of radical, sacrificial love is to have all your needs met in Christ Jesus first.

Now, this does not mean it’s wrong to long for a spouse. This does not mean you need to not want a marriage in order to be blessed with a marriage. Rather, this is about rightly aligning the desires of your heart. When God is first, he is then free to bless you with other good things too (Psalm 37:4, Matthew 6:33).

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