4 Uncomfortable Things God Will Use to Reveal Your Future Husband

Will you know when God is revealing future husband to you? Or will you miss the signs God is sending?

Here are four uncomfortable things God will use to reveal the man he wants you to marry one day.

1. God Will Reveal Your Future Husband to You By Refusing to Let You Be with the Wrong Man

Before you meet the man God has for you, there is a strong temptation to give into the fear of being alone forever. This fear might then tempt you to compromise and settle for the wrong type of guy. However, if you are also listening to the Lord, he will help you repent of this fear and reject the men who are pursuing you that do not have godly character.

So how can you handle this fear of being alone so you don’t settle for the wrong man? God certainly does call some Christians to singleness, but one sign that you have that calling is a contentment with that calling. In other words, those who have the gift of singleness are happy about it, like Paul was (1 Corinthians 7:7). Paul wasn’t complaining about being single. He was truly enjoying it (1 Corinthians 7:40). Therefore, he reasons that if you are not happy like he was in singleness, this probably means God is calling you to pursue marriage (1 Corinthians 7:7, 36).

Of course we must always be fully satisfied in God through Jesus Christ (Philippians 4:4), but nowhere in Scripture does God command us to ignore the biblical desires he’s given us, like for marriage (Genesis 2:18).

All that to say, it’s normal to be in an uncomfortable season of singleness before you meet your future husband. Why? Because the fact that you are wanting a relationship is a sign God probably has one for you one day.

So you can overcome this fear of being alone by trusting in God’s good plan for you and by knowing you are free to pursue this desire for are a godly relationship.

2. God Will Reveal Your Future Husband to You By Letting This Man Trigger Your Insecurities

This doesn’t always happen, but it is common for God to put two people together that have insecurities which antagonize one another in such a way that the insecurities actually feel worse rather than better when those two people are with each other.

For example, the woman may have an insecurity about being abandoned if she ever opened her heart to a man. However, the man may have an insecurity of being rejected if he ever pursues the woman fully. Thus, his fear of being rejected may cause him to be reserved and cautious in pursuing her; however, his caution may then make her feel like he’s not that serious and will abandon her if she opens up to his pursuits. And so the woman and man can easily find themselves in a cycle where both of their insecurities are fueling the other person’s insecurities.

Why would God pair you with a man like this? Why not just put you with a guy who doesn’t have issues that perfectly inflame your issues? God often pairs you with a man who triggers your insecurities because he would rather you deal with your issues than avoid them forever. By putting you with a guy that makes your insecurities so unbearable, the Lord is using this discomfort to motivate you to find your security in Jesus first and foremost.

As Philippians 4:13 states, “I can do all things through him who strengthens me.”

3. God Will Reveal Your Future Husband to You By Crushing Any Immature Expectations About True Love You Still Have

The amount of unhappiness in your life is usually equal to the amount of unmet expectations in your life. The greater the gap between what you expected to happen and what actually is happening, the greater the gap between you and your peace.

Peace is found when your desires and God’s will for you become one. When you want something God doesn’t have for you, there is turmoil in your soul. Only by submitting to the will of the Lord will tranquility triumph in your inner being.

And so, in love, God will often shatter any immature expectations of love so he can bless you with the real thing. True love is not backdropped with TikTok trendy music. True love has no filter making the color brighter and your skin smoother. True love can only flourish in the harsh, beautiful mess of real life.

1 Corinthians 13:7, “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” God tells us this about love because true love will have to go through some things, some really hard things, things that will require great endurance.

When God reveals your person to you, it will much harder than you thought and much better than you thought.

4. God Will Reveal Your Future Husband to You By Allowing This Man to See Your Ugly Parts Before Choosing to Fully Commit to You

You’ll want to be perfect for the man God has for you. And this desire will tempt you to hide your flaws. In love, however, God won’t let you succeed.

If this man never saw your flaws, you would always doubt his love, because you would always wonder if he would stay if he knew the truth about you. God will let this man see all your imperfections so you can experience the knowledge that this person really does love you.

And God will let you see this man’s issues too. Then, when you both know for certain you are not perfect people and that you both have real issues and yet you still love each other, you will both know you’ve found your person.

1 Peter 4:8, “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.”