3 Examples of How Women Keep Each Other Single (Biblical Advice)

Here are 3 common ways single women keep each other single.

And just know, I will be using generalities in this article. I’m obviously not saying that all single women do this type of thing. Also, I’ve already created the other side to this equation in my article called 4 Ways Single Men Keep Each Other Single.

1. Women Keep Each Other Single By Telling Each Other What They Want to Hear, Not What They Need to Hear

I think men can struggle with this too, but generally speaking, women tend to be more sensitive to their friends’ feelings. Therefore, they are going to struggle more often to say the hard things that a friend might need to hear but doesn’t want to hear.

The fact is, the problem is often very obvious to everyone but the person with the problem. We need friends who love us enough to tell us the truth, even if it hurts. But a lot of single women have made an unspoken alliance with each other that goes something like this, “When we talk about our problems with each other, let’s pretend we are always right.” Thus, when a lot of single women talk, it’s always the man’s fault, and there is nothing that can be done but complain.

While there are certainly times a woman really should leave a man, and there are definitely times a friend should help her friend see that a man is toxic, there are also times where single women know what each other wants to hear and won’t dare challenge each other to ever look in the mirror. Scripture states:

• Proverbs 27:6, “Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.”
• 2 Timothy 4:3-4, “For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions, and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths.”

2. Women Keep Each Other Single By Shaming Traditional Female Desires

There are countless women who go to college, pursue careers, and try to be independent, while deep down secretly longing to be a stay-at-home mom one day who can focus on her family. The biggest reason so many women are rejecting what they really want in life is that they are afraid of what other women will think of them.

And when a woman does begin to follow her God-given feminine desires to lovingly submit to a good man who is sacrificially loving her, her single friends will often then backbite with, “And what is he doing for you?” or “Girl, you’re spoiling him,” or “You deserve more.”

As the old saying goes, “Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.” Therefore, before receiving someone’s advice, ask yourself, “Does this person have what I want?”

• Proverbs 13:20, “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.”
• 1 Corinthians 15:33, “Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company ruins good morals.’”
• 1 Timothy 3:4-5, “. . . if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?”

3. Women Keep Each Other Single Because They’re Jealous

Watch out. There are women out there who will sabotage your relationship with a good man simply because they don’t have a good man.

She will plant seeds of doubt by saying, “Wow, he’s playing basketball with his friends again? He’s probably cheating on you.”

She will add gas to the fire by saying, “What? He said that? I would be outraged! You’re being way nicer than I would be!”

She will try to break you two up by saying, “Hey, let’s have a girls’ night at the club. No boyfriends allowed.” And then she will put you in vulnerable positions with other guys, putting your relationship with your boyfriend at risk. Scripture states:

• James 3:15-16, “This is not the wisdom that comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice.”
• Acts 7:9-10, “And the patriarchs, jealous of Joseph, sold him into Egypt; but God was with him and rescued him out of all his afflictions and gave him favor and wisdom before Pharaoh, king of Egypt, who made him ruler over Egypt and over all his household.”

And if you want to do a deep Bible study on how to help your future husband find you, I wrote a book for you! It’s called Invite Him: 16 Rules from Ruth to Help Your Future Husband Find You.