When you’ve dreamed about you and this man becoming a husband and wife one day, how can you just let him go? One key to remember is that if God really is telling you to let a man go, it’s often because he has someone better for you.
While not everyone will be called to marriage, when God is leading you and a man together, his pairings will always be better than our own pairings. So we need to listen to him and not just our own feelings.
Therefore, here are 3 signs God is saying, “Let him go. I have chosen a man who will be much better for you.”
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1. If You Know He Doesn’t Treat You Right but You’re Afraid of Being Alone, God Is Probably Telling You, “Let Him Go. I Have Someone Better for You”
Never think things will get better if you two could just get married. In the vast majority of cases, if there are major problems before marriage, those problems just get worse after you get married.
Why is that? Marriage puts more pressure on you both. More commitments, more time together, and more hurdles life will throw at you as you live under the same roof. This added pressure will bring out more of this man’s mistreatment. Additionally, the added time together will heighten the issues, not solve them.
There are worse things than being alone, like being with the wrong man. Loneliness is not solved through just being with anyone. Loneliness must first be solved in the heart through our relationship with Jesus. And then you can be free to enjoy companionship with the right person.
If a man doesn’t treat you with love and respect, let him go (1 Peter 3:7, Colossians 3:19). If God has called you to marriage, he has someone much better for you.
2. If You’ve Agreed with This Man’s Lies that No Other Man Would Put Up with You Like He Does, God Is Probably Saying, “Let Him Go. I Have Someone Better for You”
One of the worst consequences of tolerating a man who is mean to you is that you will eventually end up believing that you deserve his mistreatment.
Some of the most dangerous types of men are the ones who not only treats you badly but who are good with words and can verbally manipulate you into thinking you deserve this cruelty. He will throw temper tantrums when you don’t read his mind. He will scold you after you leave the social gathering if you said something he felt like you shouldn’t have said. He will justify why you are asking too much when you get disappointed after he forgets to celebrate you on important holidays.
It’s not worth it. Cut this man loose. Don’t listen to his lies anymore. Before you will be able to connect with a godly man who can treat you right, you have to first learn to guard your own heart (Proverbs 4:23). Only after you’ve learned to keep the wrong guys out can you then be ready to let the right guy in.
Break agreements with the lies this man has told you. You don’t have to tolerate this man anymore like he’s convinced you to do. You are free to reject him and remove him from your life despite whatever he says about it.
3. If You and This Man Have Tried Everything to Make It Work but It’s Just a Bad Fit, God Is Probably Telling You, “Let Him Go. I Have Some Better for You”
Perhaps the hardest guys to let go of are the ones you know will make a great husband one day. However, just because a man will be a great husband one day, this does not mean he could be a great husband for you.
Relationships are designed by God to be personal. There are many Christian singles who love the Lord, are ready to honor a spouse in marriage, and who should not marry each other. It has to be something they both want for personal reasons too, not just moral or spiritual reasons.
Likewise, sometimes God’s callings on two people’s lives are so different that they should not become a couple.
If you’ve given it a good try but no matter what you do, there is some sort of block in your heart from really loving this man as you would want to love your husband, this is a sign God wants you to let this man go. He probably has someone better for you.
As Philippians 4:19 states, “And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.”
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