4 Biblical Marks of a Submissive Woman Sent By God

As a Christian single man, you want to lead and sacrifice for your future wife as God has called you to do (Ephesians 5:25). However, you also don’t want to be taken advantage of or deceived into marrying a toxic woman who won’t respect you.

So how can you identify a truly submissive woman sent by God? Here are 4 biblical marks to look for.

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1. A Submissive Woman Sent By God Will Be Marked By a Biblically Accurate Understanding of What Submission Is and Is Not

This idea of a wife submitting to her husband comes from God, not from man. Humans have abused this concept and mistreated women; and women have rejected biblical submission in response to the ways in which it has been abused in the past.

Thus, for a woman to truly submit to her husband as the Bible instructs, it will require her to first have a heart that is willing to submit to the Scriptures. The world is triggered by this word, “submit.” Only those who have the Holy Spirit in them can understand and apply what the Scriptures teach (1 Corinthians 2:11-16).

Unlike what the world imagines, a wife’s submission to her husband is not about treating him like her master, allowing herself to be mistreated, or being a mindless person who needs to be told what to do. Rather, feminine submission in marriage is about respecting the man who has dedicated his life to serving you.

As Christ died for the church, so too is a husband called to die for his wife in practical ways every day (Ephesians 5:25-30). His leadership is meant to be expressed through his willingness to be the first servant (Mark 10:42-45). In response, just as the church submits to Christ, so too must a wife submit to her husband’s leadership (Ephesians 5:22-33).

The world sees the word “submission” as hurtful and wrong. A biblical woman sent by God will see the call to submission as beautiful and right.

2. A Submissive Woman Sent By God Will Be Marked By a Willingness to Let You Sacrifice for Her

Some women won’t let you love them as Christ has called you to love your future wife. Just as the church must let the sacrifice of Christ be applied to us so it might benefit us (Ephesians 5:25-28), so too must a woman let a man sacrifice for her if she is to be benefited by his servant-leadership.

If a woman won’t let you play the role of a man before marriage, she will not let you play the role of a husband within marriage. To be fair, sometimes a man is too quick to offer a solution when all a woman really wants in that moment is to be heard. However, does she ever let you help her solve her problems? Does she ever let you give her advice? If she always gets defensive and never lets you influence her life in positive ways, she’s not ready to be your wife.

When she values your input and wants your help, this is a good sign she is a submissive woman sent by God to you.

3. A Submissive Woman Sent By God Will Be Marked By Gratitude When You Do Sacrifice for Her

Does she even offer to pay for the date? Has your generosity become so expected she no longer shows any appreciation? Has her request for your help slipped into demanding your help?

As a man, you want to sacrifice for her. You want to help. And you are not looking for her to repay you. However, you do want to be appreciated. And that’s right! You will never feel loved by a woman if she cannot make you feel her gratitude for the love you are offering.

You may not know this about yourself, but the thing you really want the most is to make her feel loved. You will feel the best about yourself when you know you are taking good care of the woman God has given you. However, you will never feel this way if she is an ungrateful woman who is entitled.

Therefore, make sure you marry a woman who knows how to appreciate you for all that you offer her. If she sees you as a burden who can never do anything right rather than as a blessing who is trying to lay his life down for her, she will be a curse to you rather than a blessing.

Ephesians 5:33, “However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

4. A Submissive Woman Sent By God Will Be Marked By a Wisdom to Only Submit When It’s Biblical

Hopefully you have been able to maintain the right context throughout this article. I’m talking about seeing predicators from a woman that would indicate she would be a submissive wife if you married her. That is important because until you are a woman’s husband, she should not be submitting to you like a wife.

In fact, if she is submitting to you like a wife before marriage, this is a sign she has boundary issues; and these issues will probably manifest later on in hurtful ways. In other words, if she is submitting to you in ways that are unbiblical right now, she will probably submit to other people later on in your marriage that would be wrong of her to do then.

Some women submit to the most domineering personality in the room. But a biblical woman will know she is called to submit to her husband. The Bible’s commands about female submission are really about the roles within the family, which play out in the church as well. It says “wives” submit to your “husbands,” not “women” submit to “men” (Ephesians 5:22, 1 Peter 3:1, Colossians 3:18). These verses do not apply to the dynamics between all men and all women in all contexts.

So if a woman knows she is called to submit to her husband and not to every pushy person that tries to control her, this is a great sign she really is a submissive woman sent by God.

Did you know that your future wife will actually do things to identify herself to you? For 3 signs that mean a woman is identify herself to you as your wife, click here.

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