There is no way to know for certain what God will or won’t do in our lives. Biblical faith is when we choose to obey God even when we do not know what the results of our faith will be.
So these 4 signs are not meant to be promises or guarantees. We can’t force God to do anything. Rather, these 4 signs are meant to help guide you towards receiving what God might be planning to give you. We can’t force God to bless us with a relationship, but we can prepare our hearts to glorify him in a future relationship so God is more likely to bless us with this gift.
As Proverbs 18:22 states, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” Marriage is not the ultimate gift from God. God himself is his ultimate gift to his people. He’s what we need the most. Nonetheless, the Lord also desires to bless some of his people with a God-centered marriage as Proverbs 18:22 explains.
So here are 4 signs God is about to bless you with a great relationship.
1. God Often Waits to Bless Us with a Relationship Until We Are Able to Glorify Him with This Relationship
As I discuss in Are You Single Because You Don’t Love God Enough?, it would be unbiblical to say that God rewards mature Christians with marriage and punishes immature Christians with singleness. There are many Christian singles who are far more spiritually mature than some other Christians who are married.
My point here, however, is that God in kindness does often wait to bless us with things until we are mature enough to glorify him with the gift he wants to give us. Biblically speaking, everything God does, he ultimately does for his own glory. God will often withhold blessings that will pull us away from glorifying him.
So one sign that God is about to bless you with a godly relationship is if you are maturing to a place in your heart where you are truly able to not idolize this relationship but rather glorify God through this relationship. When you begin to see that everything is ultimately supposed to be used to bring more glory to God, you are then gaining the maturity to properly handle God’s blessings.
2. If You Are Building a Solid Friendship with Someone from the Opposite Sex, This Could Be a Sign That God Is About to Bless You with a Great Relationship
God is incredibly creative in the ways that he brings people together. Everyone’s story is different. Some Christian married couples met online, some met through a blind date, and others met through serving together in a ministry at church.
One of the most common ways God brings people together, however, is through friendships. When a man and woman are becoming better and better friends, the natural progression is for their relationship to actually outgrow their friendship one day and move into a romantic relationship.
There’s nothing wrong with Christian men and women being just friends, but there is also nothing wrong with men and women becoming friends to then become something more than friends in the future. Friendship is one of the best foundations to romance.
So if you are forming a solid friendship with a godly man or woman that has the biblical traits of the type of husband or wife that you would want to be married to one day, this could be a sign that God is about to bless you with a great relationship.
3. If Your Understanding of What a Biblical Husband and Wife Look Like Is Improving, This Could Be a Sign that God Is About to Bless You with a Great Relationship
There are so many lies in the world when it comes to relationships. One way that God will prepare your heart for the godly marriage he has planned for you is by helping you discover what lies you have believed about romance. What we believe will shape how we live our lives. When we believe things that are not true about sex, gender, marriage, and other important topics that play into having a healthy relationship, our behavior will be negatively shaped by these false beliefs.
So if God is replacing what you used to believe with biblical truths about what true love actually looks like, this could be a sign God is preparing you for a relationship he is about to give you. As Romans 12:2 (NIV) states, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
4. When You Become the Type of Person You Would Want to Date, This Could Be a Sign God Is About to Bless You with a Great Relationship
One of the factors that keep many Christians single for longer than they want is that they themselves do not live up to the standards they have for the type of person they would be willing to date or marry. And I’m not saying that most Christians are unaware of this issue. I’m not saying that most Christians are blinded by pride and are holding the opposite sex to a double standard. Certainly some people do that, but I don’t believe most Christians struggle with that.
Rather, what I am describing is that many Christians know what a Christian marriage should look like but they also know they themselves have sins in their own life that would prevent them from being the man or woman of God they would want to be in their future marriage one day. Therefore, because they know they are not meeting the biblical standards they see in Scripture, they know they are not ready to get married.
This then causes a few different outcomes. They either remain single and don’t date anyone because they know they are not ready for marriage. Or they date people who are also not ready for marriage because they want to be in a relationship but they know they are not ready to be in a serious relationship. What they don’t do when they know they are not ready for marriage is try to date a Christian man or woman who they do believe is ready for marriage.
In other words, one reason for prolonged unwanted singleness is that many Christian singles don’t believe they are good enough to date a godly man or woman. They then end up in this bad cycle of dating people they know they would never marry and then feeling even worse about themselves because of all the bad relationships they are accumulating in their past.
The only way to breakout of this bad cycle is to become the type of person you would be willing to marry. When you begin to repent of the sins in your life and you begin to be matured by the power of the Holy Spirit, you will then have the confidence and freedom to engage with other Christian singles that you would be truly interested in dating and marrying one day.
So one sign that God could be preparing to give you a great relationship is when he is sanctifying you into the type of person you would be willing to date.
For more Christian relationship advice to help you navigate the most confusing parts of singleness and dating, you might be interested in my newest book called 100 Relationship Signs: How to Know What God Is Saying to You in Singleness and Dating.