4 Signs He Likes You But He’s Preparing to Move On

Are you unknowingly pushing a good man away from you? Was he really interested in you, but now, for some reason, he seems to be pulling away? Why might this be happening?

Here are 4 marks of a man who is preparing to move on because he thinks you’re not interested.

1. If You’ve Been Trying to Treat Him Like Every Other Guy You Meet So He Doesn’t Know You Like Him, He Is Probably Preparing to Move On Soon

Contrary to what many Christian single women have been taught about interacting with single men, you should not treat each guy the same. When you don’t like a guy, you should do things that keep up a healthy boundary. And when you do like a guy, you should do things that allow him to realize you might be interested.

Ironically, what often happens, however, is that a Christian woman is very friendly, relaxed, and conversational with the guys she truly just sees as friends. However, she then gets distant, guarded, and silent around any of the guys she might actually be romantically interested in. This is why she always seems to be pursued by the guys she doesn’t like while never being pursued by the guys she does like.

Ruth, however, was open towards Boaz and closed towards other men (Ruth 3:10).

Some women are horrified at the idea of the man they like knowing that they like them. Just know that a lot of times, the chemistry is mutual, but the man is getting such a cold shoulder from you that he thinks you don’t like him. A man will push through for a bit, but eventually, he has to move on if she continues to act uninterested.

2. If You’re Making Him Work Super Hard to Gain Your Trust Because of Your Past Wounds, He Might Be Preparing to Move On Soon

One of the fastest ways to push a good man away from you is to make him pay for the wrongs a bad man did to you.

While a godly man will be understanding and know that you have wounds from your past, just as he will have wounds from his past, he will also be wise and know that he can only invest so much time and energy into a woman before he concludes he is wasting his time.

You should be guarded at first when you are getting to know him (Proverbs 4:23). However, the more you get to know him, the more you must open up. The more evidence he gives you over time that he is trustworthy, the more he deserves your trust.

3. If You Said You Just Want to Be Friends and Get to Know Each Other More First, He Might Be Preparing to Move On Soon

Some guys do rush things. This can be especially frustrating if you really do like him and see a lot of potential with him, but you just need more time to really get to know him. To solve this problem, a lot of women try to slow down a man’s pursuit by saying they should just be friends first. Generally speaking, this is usually a mistake. Why?

For one, if you do entertain a friendship with a man who has already expressed romantic interest, both of you know this really isn’t an authentic friendship. Secondly, this man has already made it clear that he doesn’t see you as a friend. So, you can pretend it’s a friendship. But really, at best, it’s a one-sided friendship. Lastly, unless the man is extremely determined, he will receive the word “friendship” as “she doesn’t like me like that.”

Here’s a better way. Sometimes you have to accept imperfect timing. If you want a man to lead, you have to let him lead. Of course, you should still be guarded and never let him lead you into sin. But when you try to make him pursue you in the exact way that you want him to pursue you, rather than allowing him to pursue you in the way that he chooses, you are actually subtly pushing him away.

While it would be great if you both agreed on the perfect timeline for pursuit, it’s not the end of the world if you feel like he’s going a little faster than you want. If he seems like a good man who loves the Lord, it’s not wrong to skip the friendship phase and see where things go. You can still guard your heart without pretending you’re just friends.

Lastly, I would encourage you to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15). If you do like him, but you don’t know him well enough yet to give him what he’s asking for, just tell him that. Just say something like, “I am interested in you, but I don’t know you that well yet. Let’s get to know each other more before becoming a couple. Take me on some dates and let’s see where this goes.”

4. If You’re Unsure of Him Even Though He Seems Sure of You, He Might Be Preparing to Move On Soon

Sometimes you can’t help it. If you’re unsure about him but he seems sure about you, that’s the facts. It’s okay if he needs to move on because you’re unsure about him.

However, just know that a man can only pursue a woman who seems half-interested in him for only so long. Eventually, if you don’t want him to move on from you, you need to commit. You don’t need to be sure you want to marry him to date him. You can be sure you are interested in finding out more about him. You can be sure you want to invest in this connection. And you can be sure you see potential for the two of you. That’s enough to give him a chance.

Keep walking with the Lord. He will guide you one step at a time (Galatians 5:25).