5 Clear Benchmarks God Will Show You When Someone Truly Loves You

Here are 5 things God will often show you about someone when they truly love you.

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1. When Someone Does Not Take Back Their Love When Things Get Emotionally Hard, This Is a Sign They Truly Love You

One of the main Greek words used in the New Testament for the word “love” is “agape.” This word has a special emphasis on choice. In the Bible we see that true love is not just an emotion, although the emotions are certainly involved. Rather, true love is a willful choice to sacrifice for the benefit of another (John 15:13).

This is why when someone truly loves you, they will not be constantly giving “love” and taking away “love” depending how they feel in that moment. When someone really loves you, they will love you in both the good times and the bad times. Even when things are getting emotionally hard, their love will remain. As Proverbs 17:17 states, “A friend loves at all times . . . .”

2. When Someone Is Willing to Forgive You When You Sin Against Them, This Is a Sign They Truly Love You

If you want to know what true love looks like, you have to look at God, for God is love (1 John 4:8). God shows his love for us in countless ways, but one of his most lavish expressions of love is his forgiveness. As 1 John 4:9 states:

In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him.”

God made forgiveness possible through lovingly sacrificing himself on our behalf. Likewise, when someone truly loves you, they will love you even after you sin against them. They will forgive you as God has forgiven us.

3. If Someone Is Willing to Be Honest with You Even When They Know You Will Be Mad at Them, This Is a Sign They Truly Love You

The one’s who love you the most are the ones who are willing to tell you the truth even when they know you will be upset. Proverbs 27:6, “Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.”

If someone sees you doing something that is damaging to yourself and they know you will be upset if they say anything but they choose to say something anyways, this is a sign they truly love you.

As Ephesians 4:15 teaches us, speaking the truth and love are always connected.

4. If Someone Goes Out of Their Way to Avoid Temptation as a Way of Protecting Their Relationship with You, This Is a Sign They Truly Love You

Satan hates Christ-centered relationships that are filled with true love. There are countless temptations in the world constantly seeking to corrupt this type of holy relationship (Proverbs 5). And in our flesh, we are easily pulled into quick pleasures that hurt the ones we love the most.

Therefore, when someone truly loves you, they will do their best to guard against the flesh, the world, and the devil. No one will be perfect, but when someone really does love you, they will do whatever they can to avoid falling to outside attacks meant to destroy your relationship because it brings glory to God (2 Corinthians 2:9-11).

5. If Someone’s Expressions of Love Is Matched By Their Loyalty to You, This Is a Sign They Truly Love You

There are so many other important expressions of true love, but near the top of any list must be loyalty. It’s not always the person who is shouting the loudest in support of you that loves you the most. Rather, the person who remains at your side when the crowds are no longer there, the person who has your back even when it will cost them, the person who won’t leave you through thick and thin – that is the person who truly loves you.

God is fiercely loyal to those he loves because you can’t have true love without loyalty. So when someone is loyal, that is a great sign they truly love you. For as 1 Corinthians 13:7-8 states, “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.

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