5 Odd Things that Happen to a Man When He Meets His Future Wife

When I say that there are odd things that happen when a man meets his future wife, I don’t necessarily mean that a man will feel these things the first time he lays eyes on her. Though for some, that could happen.

Rather, I’m really talking about the odd things that happen at the moment he realizes this woman is his future wife.  This could be soon after he meets her, months after dating her, or it could be years after knowing her as a friend.

Therefore, here are 5 odd things that often happen to a man when he realizes he has met his future wife.

1. When a Man Meets His Future Wife, He Usually Gets Connected to Her Before He Realizes He’s that Connected to Her

As Christian men, we tend to be a bit more guarded than the average guy. Not only do we not want to get hurt, but we also don’t want to hurt a woman. And not only that, we want to please the Lord. We want to make sure we are following his will for our lives while obeying the Scriptures.

Thus, it’s easy to overcomplicate relationships in ways that worldly men often don’t struggle with. While a worldly guy might put less pressure on himself and thus be able to connect more easily with a woman in conversation, a Christian man may hold back and overthink things.

However, one reason a Christian man falls in love with a particular woman and decides he doesn’t want any other woman is that he finds it very natural to connect with her. Somehow, someway, eventually, he ends up connecting to this woman in a much deeper way than he realized. Upon reflection, he then accepts how much he cares about her, which leads him to want to pursue her into marriage.

Though not a romantic relationship, this mirrors the unexpected connection between Jonathan and David: “The soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul” (1 Samuel 18:1).

2. When a Man Meets His Future Wife, His Uncertainty About Being Called to a Life of Singleness Vanishes

How can you really know if God wants you to be single forever or to get married one day? What if you make a mistake and choose to get married even though, deep down, you would prefer to be single? What if you force yourself into believing you love a woman when, in reality, you are just lonely right now?

The fact is, it’s very possible your feelings change if you were just experiencing a crush, a romantic swell of emotions, or just a desire to date someone but not commit in marriage. If you still have questions about a woman and you are uncertain that you would want to marry her, this is a sign God has not revealed her to you as your future wife.

When God really reveals the right woman to you, he will also remove all doubt. I’m not saying he will remove the possibility of things going bad one day. We all have free will. Rather, I’m saying that in the present, you will know for certain God is giving you the green light (1 Corinthians 7:36). If you don’t know for certain, don’t get married.

3. When a Man Meets His Future Wife, He Suddenly Realizes Why God Did Not Give Him that Woman in His Past He Thought He Wanted

Some men struggle to feel like they will ever get married because they believe they can’t be with the only woman they would ever want to marry. Maybe he pursued a woman in his past, but she rejected him. Or maybe he dated a woman who he believed was the one, but then she cheated and broke his trust forever. Or perhaps, God forbid, she died and now he feels there’s no one he could love like her.

Sometimes these feelings become facts. It’s certainly possible. However, something strange often happens to a man. When he meets the woman God wants him to marry, he gains a desire for her that he did not believe another woman could produce in him.

Like Job, who suffered terribly but later experienced even more joy than he lost at first (Job 42:12), so too is it possible for God to bless a man with a woman that he never thought even existed for him.

4. When a Man Meets His Future Wife, He Realizes He’s Willing to Do the Hard Work that Will Be Required of Him

The truth is, many men want to be single and stay away from relationships because they know how much work they are. And that’s true. They are a lot of work. However, when a man meets the right woman, God doesn’t remove the work. Rather, God gives that man the necessary energy to want to do the work (Philippians 2:13).

Genesis 29:20, “So Jacob served seven years for Rachel, and they seemed to him but a few days because of the love he had for her.”

5. When a Man Meets His Future Wife, He Has a Confirmation from the Lord that Goes Beyond Mere Logic

As men, we want things to make sense. And this is good. God has given us a mind and he wants us to use it. However, there are deeper things in life that go beyond the type of knowing experienced with the mind.

For example, in Ephesians 3:19, Paul prays that we would “know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge.” In a similar way, when God reveals the right woman to you, he will implant a love for her in your heart that will surpass your logical arguments for why you should marry her. You will just know that you must. Your love for her will compel you.

As Proverbs 30:18-19 (NLT) states, “There are three things that amaze me— no, four things that I don’t understand: how an eagle glides through the sky, how a snake slithers on a rock, how a ship navigates the ocean, how a man loves a woman.”