In this article, we are going to discuss 5 things God does to help you know you should avoid someone and not get involved with them. But these things are not the normal ways God will most often speak to us. So don’t expect to see these types of things all the time, but there are moments in life where God gives us rare but clear signs he does want us to avoid someone.
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1. If God Allows You to Encounter People Who All Corroborate a Similar Horror Story Involving This Person But None of These People Know Each Other, This Is a Good Sign God Is Telling You to Avoid Someone
The worst type of people often gain a reputation for their bad actions. Notice how everyone knew who Paul was before he was saved by Jesus Christ. Acts 9:13 states, “But Ananias answered, ‘Lord, I have heard from many about this man, how much evil he has done to your saints at Jerusalem.’” Acts 9:21 also says, “And all who heard him were amazed and said, ‘Is not this the man who made havoc in Jerusalem of those who called upon this name? And has he not come here for this purpose, to bring them bound before the chief priests?’”
People can change like Paul did, but if there is no evidence of a change like there was with Paul and there is a bad report about this person from many people, this is a good sign God wants you to avoid this person.
2. If God Has Allowed You to Catch Someone in a Lie in Such a Way That You Could Never Have Planned It Yourself, This Is a Sign God Is Warning You to Avoid This Person
If someone lies but then openly confesses that they lied, their original deceit is still a problem but their eventual honesty is at least a good sign that they want to repent and make things right. It’s far worse when someone was planning on never telling you the truth but you find out anyways.
Sadly, many lies we are told in our lives will never be discovered. But on rare occasions, when God wants to make it clear to you that he does not want you with someone, he will expose someone’s lies to you in a way that you could never have planned on your own.
It might feel like this type of experiences was a complete stroke of luck, but biblically we know that everything is under God’s sovereignty. For as Proverbs 16:33 (NLT) states, “We may throw the dice, but the Lord determines how they fall.” It’s no coincidence when someone is caught in a lie. God is exposing this for your protection.
3. If God Has Repeatedly Put in Place Circumstances that Have Kept You Two Apart No Matter How Much You Have Tried to Be Together, This Could be a Sign God Is Telling You to Let This Person Go
In most instances, God will simply let us defy him if that is what we are determined to do. If you sense the Holy Spirit telling you not to be around someone and to not get emotionally attached to them, but you ignore his leading and you do this anyways, oftentimes God will let you make that choice – for we do reap what we sow (Galatians 6:7).
But in rare instances, God will grant us special grace by continually thwarting our plans to get connected to this person he wants us to avoid. Just a few weeks ago I heard a testimony at church from a married man who was deeply addicted to porn and he was attempting to take his sins a step further and actually meet someone to have an affair with that he found online. But by the grace of God, each time he attempted this, he was thwarted from following through. This man was eventually convicted of his sexual sins, confessed them to his wife, and went through a long recovery process.
Likewise, there are times in life where God thwarts are attempts to go against his will. Make sure you take advantage of this grace if he is blocking your attempts to be with this person by constantly creating circumstances to keep you two apart. As Galatians 6:8 states, “For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life.”
4. If God Is Giving You an Uncommonly Strong Inner Discernment That Someone Should Not Be Trusted, This Is Often a True Sign God Really Does Want You to Avoid Someone
It is a common experience for the Christian to feel the Spirit’s discernment working in their hearts. But most of the times the Spirit’s discernment helps us rightly interpret the evidence we are gathering throughout the course of our days. As Hebrews 5:14 states, “But solid food is for the mature, for those who have their powers of discernment trained by constant practice to distinguish good from evil.”
So normally discernment is an ongoing process where the Holy Spirit helps us rightly apply the word of God to what is happening in our lives. But I do believe there are times where God gives us a stronger sense about someone in our hearts without really knowing much about them. If you feel like God is always giving you this sense about everyone you meet, this is more likely you just being judgmental. But I do believe it is possible for God to just give you a warning in your heart about someone that is bad news even though you don’t know this person yet.
While you should not expect this to happen all the time because God normally wants us to simply observe people through the lens of Scripture, sometimes God will tell you in your heart to just avoid someone.
5. If Someone Openly Hates Jesus Christ and Denies His Divinity, This Is a Clear Sign God Wants You to Avoid Getting Into a Relationship with This Person
You may think this sign would not be rare because the Bible so clearly teaches us that anyone who denies Jesus is God is a heretic (see 1 John 4). But what’s rare about this type of scenario is that if you are a Christian, someone who wants to date you or just use you will rarely tell you the truth about their hatred of Jesus. Normally people will pretend to love Jesus and be a follower of him if they know that is what you want them to say. At a minimum they will simply say they are open to the idea of Christianity as a way of giving you hope that one day they might become a Christian. But their lives will still be full of sinful actions even though they tell you with their words they are open to the idea of Christ being the true Savior.
Those are signs you should not date someone or become unequally yoked with them in any way. Those are just not rare signs. You should expect that type of deceit to be normal in this fallen world. It’s rare, however, for someone to be so bold and open that they clearly profess their hatred of Jesus Christ. But this is certainly the clearest sign God does want you to avoid this person and not get connected with them.
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