5 Simple Things that Could Be Blocking You from Your Person

Here are 5 simple things that could be blocking you from meeting the person God wants you to marry one day.

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1. If You’re Too Busy and Tired to Meet People, This Could Be Blocking You from Your Person

Is Satan sabotaging you and trying to keep you single? Maybe. Do you need more healing because your inner wounds are subtly keeping people away? Possibly. Do you need to fast and pray so the Lord will bless you with a spouse? If that’s what you feel led to do, do it.

However, many times there is a far simpler problem that needs to get fixed first. Many people who want to be in a relationship just don’t have the time or energy that would be necessary to meet someone.

Psalm 90:12 (NLT), “Teach us to realize the brevity of life, so that we may grow in wisdom.” There’s only so much time and energy in our lives. We have to use it on the things that are most important to us.

If you are prioritizing your career, your health, your mental wellbeing, or the needs of a family member, this is good. But if you don’t have time or energy to meet someone and you really want to be married, something needs to change. You have to create the space necessary for a relationship to occur.

2. If You’re Overthinking Little Details, This Could Be Blocking You from Your Person

Sometimes the biggest blockers are the ones in our mind. Life will always have stressors and sources of confusion; but when we dive in deep on the smallest of details that really don’t matter that much, we are using up valuable time and energy that could be used in much better ways.

Don’t think too much about how you made eye contact with someone, how you greeted that person, or where they chose to sit. Those little things really don’t matter. If you two aren’t able to have a normal conversation, that’s a bigger issue. Don’t worry if they use an NIV even though you prefer the ESV. If you both are aligned on the big truths of Scripture, that’s all that matters.

My point is, sometimes we need to get out of our own heads because our own overthinking is blocking us from really connecting with someone in the flesh. When the anxiety comes, pray about the issue and then move on with the peace found in Christ (Philippians 4:6-7).

3. If You’ve Been Blocked By Someone You Thought Was “Your Person,” Your False Belief that This Is Your Person Is Blocking You from the Real One God Has for You

What if your ex has blocked you on every social media platform? What if the person you thought was the one has now started dating someone else? Or maybe you believe you have met the right person but it’s just always the wrong time. What then?

While anything is possible, it is very unlikely that the person God has for you is currently rejecting you. When you meet the right person, it is very rare for that person to not choose to be with you but then have a change of heart and want to be with you. When it’s really the right person, usually you both want to be with each other from the start.

If you feel like “the one got away,” that thought alone is really the thing blocking you from the one. If you didn’t end up with that person, that was not your person (Isaiah 55:11).

4. If Your Presence Is Not Open, This Could Be Blocking You from Your Person

Another really easy thing to overlook is your own openness, or lack of openness. If you don’t give off a feeling to others that you want to talk, then they aren’t going to talk to you (Proverbs 11:17). If you walk into a room and you never smile, people will subconsciously be less likely to approach you.

However, when you choose to have an open presence that makes people feel that you are willing to small talk, you are smiling when you see people, and you are generally a happy person when you are in public, it’s much more likely you will connect with other people.

You’re not responsible for how others receive you. But you are responsible for what you are projecting. Choosing to be more friendly and open to others is a simple change that can go a long way (Colossians 3:12).

5. If You’re Hiding Yourself Because You’re Afraid of Getting Hurt, This Will Block You from Your Person

Sometimes people say they don’t know why God has given them a desire for marriage but has not yet fulfilled that desire in their life. However, when you start probing, the truth is, they are the one’s hiding themselves.

They are afraid of getting rejected, of being known but unloved, or of trying but failing. And so, they blame their circumstances on God for keeping them single. Be honest with yourself. If you are afraid of getting hurt, you may be hiding yourself as a means of staying safe. This will keep you from your person.

Be the light God has called you to be (Matthew 5:14-16) and the right person will see you.

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