The Lord’s presence always brings more order to our lives while Satan’s presence always brings more disorder to our lives.
This truth can also help you know if a woman is from God or from Satan. Therefore, here are 3 biblical marks of a chaotic woman sent by Satan to disrupt your life. Also, at the end, I will answer some follow up questions people may have after reading this article.
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1. If a Woman Is Always Messing with Your Head By Sending You Mixed Signals, She May Be Sent By Satan to Disrupt Your Life
Satan loves to use people who always want what they can’t have. I’m not saying that Satan makes a woman want what she can’t have. All humans are responsible for their own desires. But if a woman has given into the temptation of choosing to be discontent, she will be the type of person Satan loves to use.
For example, sometimes a woman will want you because you seem like the type of guy she could never have. Her belief that she could never have you might actually then begin to fuel her to get into a relationship with you. However, if you do start liking her, she will then lose her motivation to be with you. When you begin to back away too because you sense a change in her feelings, she may then start liking you again. Thus, this whole chaotic circle may just keep repeating itself until you put a stop to it.
In Genesis 3:1-7, was not this the tactic Satan used to corrupt Eve who then influenced Adam to sin too? She wanted what she couldn’t have – the one tree in the garden that God told them not to eat from. Thus, Satan tempted Eve to want that one tree. Like Adam, if you passively let a woman like this lead in your life, it will bring all kinds of chaos.
2. If a Woman Hates the Idea of Biblical Submission, She Will Bring Chaos into Your Life
1 Timothy 3:11-14, “Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve; and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor.”
Paul is highlighting the truth that God has a design for relationships. The man is to lead through sacrifice. The woman is to help (Genesis 2:18) him lead through respect and submission. When a man and woman are fighting about who leads, chaos ensues, which is exactly what Satan wants. Notice in 1 Corinthians 14:33-35, how closely the statement “God is not a God of confusion but of peace” is to the command of “women should keep silent in the churches”:
For God is not a God of confusion but of peace. As in all the churches of the saints, the women should keep silent in the churches. For they are not permitted to speak, but should be in submission, as the Law also says. If there is anything they desire to learn, let them ask their husbands at home. For it is shameful for a woman to speak in church.”
The context of this passage is that Paul is giving instructions about having an orderly church service when the Christians gather. This may sound harsh, but Paul was not saying a woman should literally not make a sound or contribute in anyway. In other places, like 1 Corinthians 11:5, he condones a woman’s prophesying in church, “. . . but every wife who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head, since it is the same as if her head were shaven.”
While a deep dive into these passages goes beyond the point of this article, we can see here that Paul is very concerned with female submission. Why? Because without female submission, a Christian couple will experience chaos in their relationship.
3. If a Woman’s Chaotic Reasoning Is Corrupting Your Ability to Think Clearly, She May Be Sent By Satan to Disrupt Your Life
In 2 Corinthians 11:3, Paul writes, “But I am afraid that as the serpent deceived Eve by his cunning, your thoughts will be led astray from a sincere and pure devotion to Christ.” In context, Paul was saying that the Corinthians were in the habit of putting up with false teachers who were proclaiming a different gospel.
However, as a man trying to avoid being tempted away from God through a chaotic woman sent by Satan, we can apply these truths as well. Satan tempted Eve through a false logic. He worked on her mind and tempted her to doubt God’s simple commands and his overall goodness. She became “double-minded” (James 1:6-8).
While men can certainly struggle with this type of thing too, we are talking about women right now. So as a man, if a woman has a way of justifying whatever she wants through faulty logic, just know that this will affect your ability to think clearly if you put up with it long enough (Proverbs 13:20).
Here are 5 follow up questions that some of you may have after reading this article:
1. How can a man distinguish between a woman being used by Satan and a godly woman who is simply emotionally immature or struggling with past wounds?
The key is discernment through the Holy Spirit and testing the fruit of a person’s life, “You will recognize them by their fruits. Are grapes gathered from thornbushes, or figs from thistles?” (Matthew 7:16).
A woman who is emotionally wounded may still be teachable, humble, and open to correction. She may exhibit repentance, a desire for healing, and growth in Christ. In contrast, someone being used by Satan will be unrepentant, divisive, manipulative, or resistant to truth.
Discernment comes by evaluating patterns, not isolated moments. A chaotic woman used by Satan will consistently pull you away from God, clarity, and peace, whereas a hurting but godly woman will still assist you toward truth and growth, even if imperfectly.
2. Isn’t the idea of “biblical submission” controversial, and how should it be applied in modern Christian relationships?
Biblical submission is often misunderstood. It is not oppression or inferiority. Instead, it is voluntary respect within a Christ-centered relationship, grounded in mutual love, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord . . . Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:22, 25). Notice that the call to submit is directed towards the woman, meaning it is her choice, not a command her husband should force her to obey, just as she cannot force him to obey the command to serve her like Christ serves the church.
In marriage, the husband is called to lead sacrificially, gently, and humbly, reflecting Christ. The wife is called to support and honor that leadership out of reverence for the Lord, not as a form of servitude. This model reflects order, not dominance.
In dating, submission isn’t demanded but rather discerned—is the relationship aligning with God’s design for eventual biblical marriage? If a woman fundamentally resists the concept of God’s order in relationships, it could lead to long-term spiritual conflict.
3. Can Satan really use romantic attraction and relationship confusion as a tool for spiritual attack?
Yes. Satan often exploits human desire, emotions, and confusion to lead believers away from God’s will (2 Corinthians 11:3).
Romantic attraction can be a blessing or a trap, depending on whether it draws you closer to God or leads to compromise. Satan used Delilah to wear Samson down emotionally (Judges 16), and Solomon’s heart was led astray by foreign women who turned him to idols (1 Kings 11:4).
This shows how relationships—when governed by emotion rather than discernment—can become a tool for spiritual downfall.
4. Could some of these warning signs reflect a man’s own lack of clarity, boundaries, or spiritual maturity rather than the woman’s character?
Absolutely. Scripture teaches that we are responsible for guarding our own hearts and making wise choices, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” (Proverbs 4:23).
Adam failed by passively allowing Eve to lead in the temptation (Genesis 3:1-7). His failure to lead and speak up contributed to the fall. Many men today fall into chaos not just because of the woman’s influence but because of spiritual immaturity, lack of leadership, or people-pleasing. If you’re with a good woman but you’re not leading as a man should, your life will still be full of chaos.
Men are called to walk in wisdom, strength, and spiritual discernment (1 Corinthians 16:13). Recognizing patterns of relational dysfunction should lead to self-reflection before placing all blame externally.
5. How should a Christian man respond if he realizes a woman in his life matches one or more of these marks?
The first response should be prayer, discernment, and honest evaluation. Scripture encourages believers to avoid relationships that pull them away from righteousness (1 Corinthians 15:33).
If the woman is unwilling to change or acknowledge any unhealthy behavior, he should set firm boundaries or even end the relationship to protect his spiritual health. However, the response should not be one of arrogance or condemnation, but truth in love (Ephesians 4:15).
In marriage, the response is more complex—requiring counseling, prayer, and persistent godly leadership.
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