Are you being too judgmental? Are your standards too high? Will you always be single if you don’t compromise on your spiritual requirements for a spouse?
Or are you being too risky by giving someone a chance who is showing signs of immaturity? Are you ignoring God’s command to guard your heart because you are trying to be too nice to people that you should just reject?
Are you single because you are too accomplished, too educated, and too intelligent as a woman? Are men intimated by you?
A hard relationship is not necessarily the wrong relationship. Confusion is not always a sign God is saying no. And while the man is the pursuer, this does not mean you will get to sit there and do nothing while your future husband does all the hard parts of making this relationship come into existence.
If you are a Christian man, one of the ways God will show you who to marry is by leading your wife to identify herself to you.
“Besides church, where can I meet Christian single men?” This is a question I’ve received a lot from Christian single women who want to be married one day. They want to be inviting, they want a man to pursue them, but they are unsure of where to meet eligible men who love the Lord.
Sometimes a man will pursue you if you just give him more time. However, it’s also possible you are just wasting time because this man is never going to pursue you. So how will you know if you should keep waiting for that guy or if you should move on?
Maybe you feel like God told you, “That person is the one for you.” But what if you’re wrong? How will you know if you misheard God? Or maybe you feel like God said, “You should move on and stop waiting.” But what if you should keep waiting? How will God confirm that he really does not want you with that person?
If you are a Christian woman who wants to be in a godly marriage one day, you not only need to find the right man, but you also need to reject the wrong men. How will you know if you should give a guy a chance or reject his pursuit right from the start?
As a Christian woman, you don’t want to marry just anyone. Even if you really like a man, deep down, what you care about most is that you are choosing the man God wants you to choose.
