
Many Christian men spend years praying for God to bring the right woman into their lives. But when a godly woman finally begins showing genuine interest, some men unintentionally sabotage the opportunity.

Before I get started, I want to make clear that this isn’t about blaming the church as if it’s the enemy. I’m also not saying that the primary purpose of church is to help people get married. Ultimately, the church is God’s idea, and its primary purpose is to proclaim the gospel, disciple Christians, and glorify God.

Many guys think the Bible is there to ruin their fun. They look at other men in the world who are living in sexual sin with women, and they say to themselves, “They don’t seem to be suffering because of these sins. So why shouldn’t I enjoy myself and have some fun with promiscuous women?”

In most cases, a man doesn’t end up in a terrible marriage by accident. Yes, in some instances, a man did all he could but was simply tricked by a particularly manipulative woman. However, more often than not, a man who claims he was tricked by a woman was really tricked by himself. Proverbs 19:3, “When a man’s folly brings his way to ruin, his heart rages against the Lord.”

Maybe you met her in passing, but for some reason, you can’t stop thinking about her. Or maybe you crossed paths and had strong chemistry, but neither of you was in a season to date. Maybe you were trying to rebuild your life, one of you was emotionally unavailable, focused on career goals, or healing from past wounds. The connection felt real, but the timing was just off.