Singleness can be a blessing from God for those who have been equipped with this gift (1 Corinthians 7:7). However, for most Christians, they are designed to function best with a spouse.
Do you have to give a man sex for him to love you? If he is a godly man, the answer to that question is no.
But there are certain things a godly man needs before he can fully open his heart to you and pursue you into marriage.
Before God introduces you to “the love of your life,” meaning the person he wants you to marry one day, he will prepare you for this in very clear ways.
Without hope, our hearts sink into despair. With it, we can endure hardship, waiting, and even disappointment with the assurance that God is still working (Romans 15:13).
The word limerence may sound modern, but the experience it describes is as old as humanity. Coined by psychologist Dorothy Tennov in the 1970s, limerence refers to an intense emotional and obsessive infatuation with another person—usually romantic in nature. It often involves intrusive thoughts, idealization, and a longing for reciprocation. In plain terms, it’s when your mind becomes consumed by someone you believe could complete you.
If you’re a single Christian woman hoping for marriage one day, it’s natural to wonder if a man showing interest in you might be “the one.” But just because someone pursues you doesn’t mean they deserve your time, your energy, or your heart. The truth is, giving attention to the wrong man can delay or even prevent you from meeting the right one God has for you.
Jesus said, “For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also” (Matthew 6:21).
When a Christian man is trying to decide if God wants him to pursue a particular woman or not, he will do many things that you would expect, like pray, apply the Scriptures, and examine the reality of his relationship with you.
If you want God to bless your relationship with a man, there are certain things you must never do for that man. You may want to do some of these things for him because it could feel like an act of love, but in reality, by not doing certain things for a man, you are loving him even better.
Anyone who wants their life to change in a dramatic way has to go through “the lonely chapters.”