Hebrews 12:1
Is God telling you to end a relationship? Do you sense he is telling you it’s time to move on but you are still not totally sure? What signs will be there if God is really telling you to end a relationship?
Here are 3 signs that God is telling you to end a relationship.
(Note: This content is about dating, not marriage. The biblical instructions for marriage are very different.)
If This Relationship Is Breaking You Down and Stripping You of Your Identity, This Is a Sign God Is Telling You to End this Relationship
God never wants you to put anything before your relationship with him. If someone in your life is being verbally, physically, or emotionally abusive and stripping you of your identity, this is not what God wants for you.
Hebrews 12:1 states, “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles.” We are told to “throw off everything that hinders” our ability to follow God.
We are responsible for ourselves and we cannot blame others for the sins and identity issues in our lives. But we must also look at the effects people are having on us and get rid of relationships that are sabotaging us at our core. Don’t let someone speak lies into your life. Don’t allow someone to bring you down and cause you to forget who you really in Jesus Christ.
So if this relationship is breaking you down and stripping you of your identity, this is a signs that God is telling you to end this relationship.
If the Relationship Is Causing More and More Sin in Your Life, This Is a Sign God Is Telling You to End the Relationship
Sin is a symptom of our hearts condition. When your heart is healthy and connected to God, you will live a righteous life that is glorifying to God. If your heart is broken, wounded, and straying from God, you will end up sinning in your life. What you do is a reflection of what is going on inside of you.
So one sign that a relationship is not good for you is if it is contributing to you sinning more in your life. For as Jesus said in Matthew 12:33, 35, “Make a tree good and its fruit will be good, or make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad, for a tree is recognized by its fruit. . . . A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in him, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in him.”
If your walk with God has deteriorated since you’ve got into this relationship, if your life is full of more sin than when you first met this person, if you are unhappy with what is coming out of your heart since you’ve gotten into this relationship – this is a sign God is telling you to end the relationship.
As 1 Corinthians 15:33-34 boldly instructs all of us, “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’ Come back to your senses as you ought, and stop sinning.”
If You Know In Your Heart What God Is Saying But You Just Haven’t Done It Yet, This Is a Sign God Is Telling You to End This Relationship
Many time when someone asks, “Is God asking me to end this relationship?” they ask this question because they already know God is actually telling them to end this relationship. Often times the challenge is not knowing what God is saying. The real challenge is doing what you know in your heart God is saying.
Don’t ignore the obvious signs that this relationship needs to end. Don’t let your desires cloud your better judgement. Don’t allow what you wish was happening to infect what you know needs to happen. The longer you ignore what you know God is saying, the longer it will take to experience what God wants to give you.
When we hold onto things in life that are not of God, all we are doing is prolonging our pain and lengthening the time it will take to experience the good has planned for us in the future. If you know what God is saying, don’t ignore him. It will be hard, but God will be with you.
Remember Jesus’ promise to us in Matthew 6:33, “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”