“I thought God hates pride. So why is this prideful person flourishing?” “It doesn’t seem like my humility is helping me in my career. People who are exalting themselves seem to be getting all the promotions.” “Why do these rude, egotistical people seem to all be in relationships while I’m still single?”
An egomaniac is someone who is obsessively self-centered, who is compulsively self-absorbed, and who will do anything to make themselves look better than others.
Here are 3 things God does to an egomaniac.
1. God Lets an Egomaniac Dig a Pit for Others but Then Allows Them to Fall Into Themselves
One egomaniac recorded in Scripture was Haman. In the book of Esther, we learn that this man was completely deluded in his own self-absorption.
Esther 3:5 states, “And when Haman saw that Mordecai did not bow down or pay homage to him, Haman was filled with fury.” In response to not being praised by Mordecai, Haman built gallows to hang him. But through a series of sovereignly ordained events, God delivered Mordecai. Esther 7:10 states, “So they hanged Haman on the gallows that he had prepared for Mordecai.”
Proverbs 26:27, “Whoever digs a pit will fall into it, and a stone will come back on him who starts it rolling.” It may take some time, but you never have to doubt the eyes of God. He sees what the egomaniac is doing.
In his sovereignty, he will often bring justice onto this person through allowing this person’s own hands to bring it about.
2. God Will Often Exalt the Very Person that the Egomaniac Sought to Destroy
The egomaniac gets triggered by people who love God, who are humble, and who are not interested in feeding the narcissist’s ego. Ironically, God will often use the egomaniac to exalt the humble person that the egomaniac hates so much.
Before Haman was hanged, God arranged for him to be honor Mordecai, the very man he was scheming against. It happened like this: The king was reminded of how Mordecai exposed a plot to kill the king, and so the king wanted to honor Mordecai. So he asked Haman a general question about how he should go about honoring a servant of his. Because Haman was an egomaniac, he naturally assumed the king wanted to honor him. Therefore, Haman gave the king a long list of ways he should honor his servant, thinking the whole time that the king would honor him in this way. Esther 6:10-11 then states:
Then the king said to Haman, ‘Hurry; take the robes and the horse, as you have said, and do so to Mordecai the Jew, who sits at the king’s gate. Leave out nothing that you have mentioned.’ So Haman took the robes and the horse, and he dressed Mordecai and led him through the square of the city, proclaiming before him, ‘Thus shall it be done to the man whom the king delights to honor.’”
3. The Egomaniac Will Eventually Lose All Their Friends and Be Exposed for the Narcissist that They Are
It’s very hard to watch people be deceived by an egomaniac when you know the truth about this person. Why can’t they see how fake this person is? Why can’t they realize this person is just being their friend for selfish reasons?
You have to patient and trust the words of Jesus in Matthew 23:12, “Whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.”
Not only was Haman hanged, not only did he have to honor the very man he hated, but he was also exposed as the wicked man he was before everyone who once thought so highly of him. Esther 6:12-13 states:
But Haman hurried to his house, mourning and with his head covered. And Haman told his wife Zeresh and all his friends everything that had happened to him. Then his wise men and his wife Zeresh said to him, ‘If Mordecai, before whom you have begun to fall, is of the Jewish people, you will not overcome him but will surely fall before him.’”
The king, Esther, and everyone else then turned on Haman too. He who exalted himself before everyone was now humiliated before those very people.
This is not uncommon with God. Very often, if the egomaniac does not repent, God will expose this person publicly and their shame will be even greater than their former fame.
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