What should you do when you get ghosted?
Perhaps you were talking to someone you really liked or maybe you even went on a few dates with someone, and then all of sudden they completely ignore you and act like you don’t exist to them.
What should you do? Here are 3 ways to respond when you get ghosted as a Christian single person.
Don’t Blame Yourself. Realize Them Ghosting You Says More About Them Than It Does About You
The worst thing you could do in a situation like this is to heap shame on yourself. Even if someone doesn’t like you or they realize you two are not meant to be, if you didn’t do anything to deserve to be ghosted then do not blame yourself for this person’s actions.
Now it is important to make sure that you are actually getting ghosted for “no reason” before you refuse to take any ownership for this person’s actions. If you said something crazy rude to this person, then this is really not getting “ghosted for no reason.”
But if out of the blue this person just ignores you or starts dating someone else and acts like you don’t exist, remember that this is not your fault. These actions say more about their character than they do about you. Ghosting someone for no reason is a sign of immaturity and fear.
Forgive Them for Expressing Their Feelings Towards You in a Disrespectful Way
So it is not wrong for this person to not like you. It is not wrong for this person to not want to speak to you again. It is not wrong for this person to date someone else. However, if they express their feelings through this disrespectful form of “ghosting” you, then that is wrong.
When someone wrongs you as a Christian, the only path forward is to forgive them (Ephesians 4:32). If you don’t forgive them you will allow their sinful actions to affect you in the future. You will project this hurt onto others and you will have this fear of getting ghosted in the future. Don’t let this experience ruin future relationships. If someone ghosts you, forgive them for expressing their feelings towards you in a disrespectful way.
Stop Reaching Out to This Persona, Accept the Situation for What It Is, and Don’t Waste Too Much Time Thinking About It
Once you forgive this person, I believe the next step is to stop reaching out to this person. You must accept what they are choosing to do. When you try to control other people it will only drive you crazy and make you look crazy.
Lastly, as hard as it sounds, you have to force yourself to not dwell on this too much. The reality is you may never really know why this person ghosted you all of a sudden. Therefore the quicker you move on and stop thinking about it the better. People do odd things sometimes and everyone has their own issues. Don’t make matters worse by wasting too much emotional energy on them.
Do what 1 Peter 5:7 instructs, “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” While this person may not be in your life anymore, God still is. Seek God and he will help you move on.