4 Internal Signs God Is Preparing You for a Relationship

Before God’s will occurs in our lives, there are certain external and internal conditions that need to be met. Today, we will discuss 4 internal signs God is preparing you for a relationship.

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1. God Is Preparing You for a Relationship When You Have a Holy Discontentment “with” Singleness

Notice I did not say that you should be discontent “in” singleness. Scripture is clear that no matter what our life situations are, God wants us to seek perfect contentment in him. Philippians 4:4 states, “Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice.”

And yet, rejoicing “in” your circumstances is not the same thing as rejoicing “with” your circumstances. You can be internally content in Christ and externally discontent with your circumstance. God isn’t calling people to be happy with their cancer, with their poverty, or with their dysfunctional marriages. Rather, God calls us to rejoice with him “in” whatever situation we find ourselves in (Philippians 4:13).

In fact, God wants us to have a holy discontentment with some of the things in our lives so we have a holy motivation to seek God’s deliverance and guidance. A holy discontentment is when you are at peace in your heart because you have the love of God but you also have a strong conviction from the Lord to change something in your life.

This often happens before God gives you a relationship. Oftentimes you will have an immense happiness and contentment in your heart with Christ while simultaneously realizing you would want a partner to experience this life with.

What’s the difference between holy discontentment and sinful dissatisfaction?

Holy discontentment comes from alignment with God’s will—it’s a spirit-led desire for something better that honors God (like a godly relationship, growth, or healing). It doesn’t come from bitterness or comparison but from a place of faith and hope. A holy discontentment says, “I trust God, but I also feel He is stirring me to move forward.”

Sinful dissatisfaction, on the other hand, is rooted in ingratitude, entitlement, or rebellion. It often leads to complaining, comparing your life to others, or becoming bitter toward God for not giving you what you want.

Holy discontentment was when Nehemiah was deeply burdened about Jerusalem’s broken walls, which led him to prayer and action in God’s will (Nehemiah 1). A sinful dissatisfaction was when the Israelites complained about manna, rejecting God’s provision because they lusted after what they had in Egypt (Numbers 11:4-6).

2. God Is Preparing You for a Relationship When You Are Thriving in Singleness

Don’t mistake “the holy discontentment” with your singleness to mean that you should be struggling in singleness. In fact, God often heightens our desire for a relationship after we have begun to thrive without a relationship. When we have learned and accomplished what God intended for one season, that’s usually when he’s getting us ready for the next phase.

In Jesus parable of the talents, Matthew 25:15 states, “To one he gave five talents, to another two, to another one, to each according to his ability. Then he went away.” This teaches us that if we want more, we must increase our ability to manage more. The way we do that is by first being faithful with the little.

When you are thriving in singleness and honoring the Lord alone, that is a great sign he’s preparing you for a partner.

So how can you tell if you’re truly “thriving in singleness” or just distracting yourself from loneliness? You’re thriving in singleness when:

• You’re at peace with your current season, even if you desire change.
• You pursue purpose, growth, and joy without depending on a relationship to validate you.
• You serve, connect, and worship without relational status being your identity.

You might be distracting yourself if:

• You stay busy to avoid emotional pain rather than to pursue meaningful growth.
• You feel anxious or empty when you’re alone.
• You’re secretly measuring your worth or “readiness” based on whether someone is interested in you.

3. God Is Preparing You for a Relationship When Your Desire for Marriage Is Fueled By Your Excess Love Rather than Your Lack of Love

How will you know if your desire for marriage comes from love or from loneliness? Ask yourself:

• Do I want to share my love—or fill a void?
• Would I still want to get married even if I was already deeply fulfilled in Christ?
• Am I hoping a relationship will fix my emotional struggles—or am I working through those with God now?

A love-driven desire for marriage comes from a heart already filled with joy and purpose. It is rooted in wanting to give, serve, and grow with someone. It doesn’t feel desperate, rushed, or panicked.

Love can never be fueled by emptiness. Love must always be fueled by abundance. When you want a relationship because you feel a lack of love, your relationship will start intensely and end just as intensely. It’s always a disaster when two empty people go to each other to get filled.

God’s formula for a successful relationship always involves two people who already full of love to give. Notice this principle throughout the Bible:

• John 13:34, “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.”
• 1 John 1:3-4 (NIV), “And our fellowship is with the Father and with his Son, Jesus Christ. We write this to make our joy complete.”
• Matthew 10:8 (NIV), “Freely you have received; freely give.”
• Ephesians 4:32, “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Again and again, we are taught that to give love, we must first be full of God’s love.

4. God Is Preparing You for a Relationship When You Don’t Need a Relationship to Be Happy

God made Adam to be with God first. God brought Eve to Adam when Adam was perfectly in God’s presence. It wasn’t good for man to be alone not because God was not enough for Adam, but because God had made Adam ready for Eve.

God’s presence filled Adam and Eve up so they could rightly love each other. It wasn’t good for them not to share God’s perfect love without being able to share it with another. That’s why God made us. He was totally fulfilled in the Trinity, but love always creates life. The same is true for a husband and wife. They love each other so much that they want to have a baby to share their love with. Love creates life.

Just like the Trinity, God did not make Eve for Adam because Adam was unfulfilled, but because Adam was fulfilled it was right for him to have someone to give his love away too.

God will pair you with your partner when you are in his presence and doing what he designed you to do (Genesis 2:15-18).

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