4 Marks of a Woman Sent By Satan to Waste Your Time

Time is one of the most valuable resources God gives a man. Therefore, it should be no surprise that Satan will come to steal this gift (John 10:10).

One of the devil’s most dangerous tactics to get a man to waste his time is to bring a woman into his life who has a hidden agenda. The man may think this is going somewhere, but the woman has no plans to progress forward. She’s just there for her own selfish reasons and to waste his time.

Therefore, here are 4 marks of a woman sent by Satan to waste your time.

1. If She Likes Your Attention But Doesn’t Seem to Actually Like You, She’s Wasting Your Time

 Romans 12:9, “Let love be genuine.”

A man is called to pursue, and one way he will know if a woman likes him is when she responds positively to his pursuit. If a woman likes it when you give her attention, it’s natural to assume she likes you.

However, this isn’t always the case; it can be difficult to know if she just likes the attention you’re giving her or if she actually likes you. One clear thing you can look for is not just her enjoyment of your pursuit but a desire to bless you in return for the attention you are giving. In other words:

• Does she give you attention, too? Or does she just take the attention you give?
• Does she ever approach you? Or does she just wait for you to always approach her?
• Does she only start texting after she hasn’t heard from you in a while? Or will she text you after you text her so there is a rhythm in the communication that shows there’s truly a mutual interest?

Attention can be addictive. Some women crave male validation more than an actual relationship with a man. If she seems energized by your interest but uninterested in truly knowing you, she may not want you—she may just want to waste your time.

2. If She’s Addicted to Drama, She Is Wasting Your Time

1 Thessalonians 4:11, “Make it your ambition to live quietly and to mind your own affairs.”

A woman who thrives on drama often creates it when it’s lacking. When she is always complaining about the problems and people in her life, she is the main denominator. A pattern of constant chaos is not just emotionally exhausting. It’s also a giant timewaster. For example:

• Is she always in conflict with friends, family, coworkers, or church members?
• Does she have a habit of turning minor disagreements into a major emotional crisis?
• Does she frequently pull you into problems that don’t really involve you?
• Do your conversations usually revolve around gossip and complaining?

Drama can feel exciting at first because it creates emotional intensity. But over time, it becomes draining. It’s also a huge time-killer. Life is so much simpler when you don’t have to fight every battle and die on every hill (Proverbs 19:11).

3. If She Just Wants to Be Friends, She’s Wasting Your Time

Proverbs 4:23, “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.”

Friendship itself is not bad. In fact, a strong marriage was often built on a friendship that existed before romance started to blossom. But if your desire is to find a girlfriend who could potentially become a wife one day, but her desire is to just have a great guy friend, you are wasting your time.

The truth is, you don’t need another friend who is a woman. If you are a Christian man who wants a wife, don’t waste your time with a lady who just wants to be your forever friend. First off, she won’t be your friend forever anyway. As soon as she starts dating someone else, your friendship will fade into nothing.

The truth is, when two people want different things, someone will eventually get hurt. A woman like this will be marked by:

• Knowing you want something more, but not cutting off the friendship, even though she has no intentions of ever dating you.
• Claiming she might want to date you one day, but right now she just sees you as a friend.
• Avoiding the define-the-relationship conversation every time you try to initiate it.
• Talking to you about other guys she’s interested in.

Many men convince themselves that staying close will eventually change her mind. This is a huge mistake. When you settle for friendship and degrade your desires for hers, she loses respect for you. However, if you refuse to just settle for friendship and instead choose to move on, there’s a small chance she actually does begin to respect you and want something more. But more importantly, you will save yourself a lot of time by not waiting for a woman who just wants to emotionally use you until she meets a man she does want to date.

So either way, avoid wasting your time with a woman you want to date but who just wants to be your friend. Long-term, this is always the wrong choice for you.

4. If She Doesn’t Desire a Godly Marriage in the Near Future, She’s Wasting Your Time

Amos 3:3, “Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?”

Even if a woman chooses to date you and seems to really like you romantically, she can still waste your time.

As a Christian man, you are not called to be in an endless dating relationship. The world values dating as a goal in and of itself. But as Christians, we know that dating is not in the Bible. Marriage, however, is. Thus, we should only use dating to pursue marriage.

If a woman has zero interest in getting married anytime soon, you are wasting your time by trying to date her.

Ephesians 5:15-17, “Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.”

Here’s a related article called 4 Marks of a Woman Sent By Satan to Ruin Your Life.