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If you are a Christian woman, here are 5 things that often happen when God chooses a man to become your future husband one day.
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1. When God Chooses a Man for You, You Will Be Pleased with His Choice
When you think about God’s sovereign will and then you apply this idea to your future husband, it can invoke a fear that says, “But what if I don’t like the man God wants me to marry? What if I’m not attracted to him? What if I would rather be with a different man?”
Thankfully, when God produces his will in our personal lives, he always aligns all the necessary components. In other words, according to Scripture, marriage is not a requirement for all Christians. Rather, it is simply reserved for those of us who want to be married (1 Corinthians 7:36). Thus, God will align your desires with his destiny for you. It would be biblically inconsistent for God to command you to marry someone you were not happy to marry. He’s not going to do this.
Sure, God may tell you to give a guy a chance who you don’t like. But if you give a guy a chance and you still feel like you would never want to marry a man like this, it’s biblically right to move on since marriage is optional for those who want it.
Thus, if you don’t want to be with this man, God doesn’t want you to be with this man either. You will want to be with the man God wants you to be with.
2. When God Chooses a Man for You, This Man Will Pursue You
It’s okay to feel like God has chosen a man for you. However, we can’t really know God’s personal will for our lives until it starts unfolding right before our eyes. When God wills something to happen in the sovereign sense, it always happens (Isaiah 55:10-11).
God’s sovereign will does not negate our free will. How does all this work together? I don’t know. I just know that the Bible states in numerous places that God has a sovereign plan for each of our lives and we have personal responsibility (Philippians 2:12-13).
Therefore, when God really chooses a man for you, this man will also make the personal choice to pursue you. You will need to be inviting towards him and play your part in the pre-marriage process. But in the end, you will know that the men who do not pursue you are not God’s choice. God’s choice for you will want to be with you.
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3. God’s Choice for You Will Be Marked By Biblical Confirmation and Not Just Your Own Compassion
If you have a strong desire for a man to repent of his sins and love the Lord, this is very good. However, many women confuse this type of Christian compassion as a sign that God wants them to marry this man one day.
Perhaps God will call you to marry a man who has to first repent of his sins and become a godly man. However, don’t ever let yourself be fooled into thinking that God wants you to be with a godless man because he wants you to help him become a godly man. Evangelizing and helping people is biblical, but God is not going to call you to disobey one part of Scripture so you can obey a different part of Scripture.
God commands us to guard our hearts (Proverbs 4:23), to avoid unequally yoked relationships (2 Corinthians 6:14), and to not deceive ourselves into thinking that we can change people with bad character (1 Corinthians 15:33). Changing hearts is the job of the Holy Spirit (John 16:7-15). Yes, he will use us to help open the eyes of the blind (Acts 26:18), but he will do this through us when we obey his word. And linking with an unbeliever is disobeying his word.
All that to say, when you choose a man for yourself, your emotions will be running the show. But when God chooses a man for you, your emotions will want this man and you will see biblical evidence that this is a man of Christian integrity.
4. When God Chooses a Man for You, You Will Want to Reject All Other Men
It’s natural to be unsure about a guy at first. I don’t think you should say no to all your relationship opportunities as you wait for a guy who isn’t pursuing you.
Rather, the point here is that God will take you on a relationship journey with the man he’s calling you to marry. And when that journey reaches a certain place, you will know you don’t want to be with any other man (Ruth 3:10, Proverbs 31:29, Song of Solomon 2:3). When that happens, that’s a great sign it’s time for you two to get married.
5. When God Chooses a Man for You, You Won’t Blow It
Again, how God’s sovereign will and our free will work together is all going to be mysterious in many ways. It’s good to try to understand as much as you can about this subject; but what is more important is that your response to these truths are biblical.
When some people hear about the sovereignty of God, they get worried that their choices don’t matter. When other people hear about man’s responsibility, they get worried that they will mess up God’s will for themselves.
When you apply Scripture properly, however, worry will evaporate (Matthew 6:32-34). When viewing the Bible accurately, knowing that God has a sovereign plan will give you the boldness to live your life in freedom (Philippians 2:12-13).
If you are seeking to honor the Lord, he will take care of the rest and he will produce the results he wants. This is true when comes to you marrying the right man as well.
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