3 Signs God Is Saying, “He’s Not The One”

How will God warn a Christian woman that a certain man is not the right man for her?

While God will speak through his word, the Holy Spirit in your heart, and the circumstances in your life, the Lord will also be speaking to you through this man’s actions.

Therefore, here are 3 actions from a man that mean God is saying, “He’s not the one for you.”

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1. If a Man Keeps Pushing for Sexual Sin with You, God Is Saying, “He’s Not The One”

There are many sinful actions a man could take that would be a clear sign that God does not want you with that man. However, sexual sin is the most common sign a woman will be able to see that means a man lacks the godly character the Lord wants her future husband to have.

Now, to be clear, I do believe there is a difference between a man who is out right pushing for sexual sin compared to a man you are dating and you two are trying to fight sexual temptation together. Once a Christian man and woman start dating and getting emotionally close to each other, the sexual tension should rise. This is one sign you two should get married (1 Corinthians 7:36). It’s not the only sign, but it is one sign.

You should not be giving into that tension, which would be sin; but oftentimes even true Christians struggle in this area. Thus, if you two do commit a sexual sin while dating but you are actively repenting and still pursuing marriage, then perhaps this still is the right man for you.

However, that is a lot different than the man who says something like, “Well, I just don’t see the big deal. If we love each other, why can’t we have sex?” Or if a man says he wants to repent of this sin with you but he is always pushing for more sexual sin with you in action, then you have to believe his actions.

1 Corinthians 6:18 states, “Flee from sexual immorality.” A godly man isn’t going to be perfect in this area, but he will be fighting to obey this command. If a man is not seeking to flee sexual immorality, this is a sign God is telling you to flee from him.

2. If This Man Is Not Repenting of Disobedience to God in His Personal Life, the Lord Is Saying to You, “He’s Not The One”

Sometimes a man can treat a woman extremely well while also running from God in his personal life. While it might seem like this man could still be “the one” for you even though he’s not following Christ, this is a lie from Satan. As 1 John 1:6-9 explains:

If we say we have fellowship with him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin. If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

I’m not saying that a man who disobeys God is not the man God has for you. That would be saying only a sinless man would be a fit for marriage. And since only Jesus is the perfect one, we know sinlessness is not the mark of a man ready for marriage.

But we also no sin is wrong and will corrupt a relationship. So what should a Christian woman do who wants a godly marriage? The key is not to settle for a man “living” in sin or “walking in darkness?” (1 John 1:6). And yet, a woman must also not to chase the fantasy of a man living perfectly free from sin (1 John 1:8). Rather, one sign of a truly godly man ready for marriage is personal repentance (1 John 1:7-9).

Does he know his failures, confess them to God, and then seek to turn from those sins? Or does he love a certain sin more than God, thus he is refusing to turn from that sin and towards God’s grace?

3. If a Man Is Committing No Action Towards You, This Is an Action that Means God Is Saying, “He’s Not The One”

Just as there are sins of omission, it’s also wise to see a man’s lack of action as an action. I do believe it is wise for a woman to invite a man’s pursuit if she has feelings for him (Ruth 3:9-11). But if she has made some effort to open the door for this man to pursue her, but he is not pursuing her, this inaction is an action. His lack of words says all you need to hear.

When God reveals the right man to you, he will also reveal you as the right woman to him. Thus, he will pursue you. If he’s not pursuing even though he’s had plenty of opportunities, this is a sign God is saying, “He’s not the one for you.”

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