5 Biblical Ways to Be Blessed with a Godly Woman

Do you want God to give you a beautiful Christian woman? Have you been waiting for years, but for some reason, you’re still without the godly wife you desire? What does the Bible say a man should do who wants to be paired with the woman God has for him?

We certainly can’t manipulate God into giving us what we want when we want it. However, throughout the Scriptures, there are many principles that will increase God’s favor in our lives, including when it comes to gaining a godly wife. For as Proverbs 19:14 states, “House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.”

Therefore, here are 5 biblical ways a man can seek God’s blessing of a godly woman.

1. If You Want God to Give You the Gift of a Wife, Become the Type of Man Who Is Prepared to Use This Gift for His Glory

God never gives a man a blessing just because the man selfishly wants that blessing. Rather, God, in love, always puts himself first. That may sound selfish to you. But God is the best, and God knows he’s the best. And thus, because God wants the best for us, he also knows he is always what is best for us (Psalm 16:2). Jeremiah 32:39 (NLT), “And I will give them one heart and one purpose: to worship me forever, for their own good and for the good of all their descendants.”

Therefore, he will never give us something that would get in the way of our relationship with him. Rather, he gives us gifts that we can use to bring him more glory, which is also what is best for us.

As 1 Peter 4:10-11 explains, “As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace . . . in order that in everything God may be glorified through Jesus Christ. To him belong glory and dominion forever and ever. Amen.”

2. If You Want God to Give You the Gift of a Wife, Become the Type of Man Who Can Steward This Gift Well

God often gives in proportion to our ability to multiply what he gives. As Jesus taught in the parable of the talents, “To one he gave five talents, to another two, to another one, to each according to his ability” (Matthew 25:15). As you know, the two who multiplied what they were given were given even more. But the one who did nothing with the talent was punished severely.

Therefore, if you just want a wife so you can sit there and enjoy her, you’re missing the biblical point of a wife. You two are supposed to create together, to multiply together, and to advance God’s kingdom together. If you want the gift of a wife, you need to have the ability to multiply with a wife.

3. If You Want God to give You the Gift of a Wife in the Future, Don’t Waste Your Singleness Now

The fastest way to reach the next season is to be faithful to God in the current season. In many cases, life is like school. To get to the next level, you need to pass the previous class. If you drop out or just keep failing over and over again, you don’t get to advance.

In Jesus’ parable of the ten minas, the ruler said, “Well done, good servant! Because you have been faithful in a very little, you shall have authority over ten cities” (Luke 19:17). And in his parable of the dishonest manager, he said, “One who is faithful in a very little is also faithful in much, and one who is dishonest in a very little is also dishonest in much” (Luke 16:10).

The point is, if you want to be trusted with more, you need to be faithful with what you have. Thus, if you want a wife, be faithful to God in your singleness. Flourish in this season and you will be trusted with the next.

4. If You Want God to Give You the Gift of a Wife, Repent of Any Laziness

Proverbs 20:4 says, “The sluggard does not plow in the autumn; he will seek at harvest and have nothing.”

This principle relates to wanting a wife. You need God to give you a wife by his grace. That is absolutely true. And yet, it’s also true that God refuses to bless lazy men. Why? Because to bless us in our laziness is actually a curse. God loves us too much to give us blessings without also allowing us the human dignity to reap what we sow.

Think of an entitled man who was given the position of CEO simply because his father started the company and wanted his son to have it. That man ruins the business, and everyone suffers. And in the process, that son is ruined too. On the other hand, think of a CEO who raises his son to be a hard worker, who makes him earn what he gets, and who then blesses him with the title of CEO. That son can thrive in that position, the business can continue to grow, and the employees are happy that the company has another great leader.

Likewise, don’t expect God to give you a wife just because he loves you. He loves you too much to bless you with a gift you haven’t done anything to pursue. God will give the gift when the gift is good for you.

As Matthew 7:11 states, “If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!”

5. If You Want God to Give You the Gift of a Wife, Ask Him to Prepare You

The only reason he would withhold something from you is if it would not be his best for you. Therefore, don’t just pray for the gift. Pray that you would be prepared to receive the gift.

When you ask God to give you what he has already planned to give you (Matthew 6:8), that is the prayer he always answers with a yes.

As 1 John 5:14-15 states, “And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us. And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of him.”

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