3 Signs God Is Saying, “Absolutely Yes!” About Someone You Like

Sometimes you may have a vague feeling that God is giving you the green light about someone you like. However, how will you know for certain when God is definitely blessing your connection with someone?

Here are 3 signs that mean God is absolutely giving you a clear yes about someone you have feelings for.

1. If It’s Biblical, Mutual, and Possible, God Is Saying “Absolutely Yes” About Someone

Whenever you want to know the true will of God, you must always start with the true word of God. While the Lord will speak to us personally, those words are not as authoritative or as clear as the infallible Scriptures.

So the first sign God is giving you a yes about someone is when the Scriptures are supporting this connection. For example, the Bible talks about the need to flee sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18), to pursue the Lord with those who call on him from a pure heart (2 Timothy 2:22), and to examine the spiritual fruit of someone’s life to confirm if their words are trustworthy (Matthew 7:15-20).

When it comes to romance, the next clear sign you must look for is desire. Romance is biblical, but it’s not required. It’s an option for those who want it. Therefore, if you don’t desire to be romantically involved with someone, God doesn’t want you to be with that person (1 Corinthians 7:36-38).

And while you should first look at your own desires to see if you want to be with this person, that’s only half the equation. God isn’t calling you to be with someone if that person doesn’t also desire you.

Lastly, two Christian singles could have these first two signs of a relationship being biblical and mutually desirable even though God still hasn’t given them a clear yes yet. Sometimes a relationship could work in theory, but it’s not possible due to external factors beyond the man’s and woman’s control.

For example, if they are forced to be separated due to other commitments, or if they have another desire that must be fulfilled first while they are single and that outweighs the desire to be together, this would mean the relationship is not actually possible.

Therefore, when God is really saying yes, it will be biblical, mutual, and possible.

2. If It’s Happening, God Is Saying “Absolutely Yes” About Someone

To be clear, just because a relationship is happening doesn’t mean God is always giving you a clear yes. In God’s sovereignty, he allows humans to make their own choices too. So you and this person could certainly go against God’s will and choose to be together. But God would only be warning you if the relationship wasn’t biblical, mutual, or possible.

Therefore, after you’ve confirmed that it’s biblical, possible, and mutual, the next thing to look at is reality. Reality is always a huge form of evidence for what God actually wills for our lives.

Isaiah 55:10-11, “For as the rain and the snow come down from heaven and do not return there but water the earth, making it bring forth and sprout, giving seed to the sower and bread to the eater, so shall my word be that goes out from my mouth; it shall not return to me empty, but it shall accomplish that which I purpose, and shall succeed in the thing for which I sent it.”
Proverbs 115:3, “Our God is in the heavens; he does all that he pleases.”
Daniel 4:35 (NIV), “He does as he pleases with the powers of heaven and the peoples of the earth. No one can hold back his hand or say to him: ‘What have you done?’”

Sometimes it feels biblical, mutual, and possible; but for some odd reason, the relationship is not actually materializing. Maybe this other person is dragging their feet every time things seem like you’re about to become an official couple. Or perhaps every time this person brings you to a decision point, you keep asking for more time.

Whatever the reason, if a relationship is not actually happening, God is not giving you a clear yes.

3. If It’s Lasting, God Is Saying “Absolutely Yes” About Someone

While you should definitely seek God’s leading before you get deeply involved with someone, sometimes you won’t be able to tell if God is actually giving you a true yes until the relationship has endured some trials.

One sign that God is involved in something is perseverance and endurance. For example, when it comes to salvation, those who are truly saved will never turn from Christ because God himself will keep them faithful. Scripture is clear that true Christians will always persevere until the end through God’s grace. As Jude 1:24-25 explains:

Now to him who is able to keep you from stumbling and to present you blameless before the presence of his glory with great joy, to the only God, our Savior, through Jesus Christ our Lord, be glory, majesty, dominion, and authority, before all time and now and forever. Amen.”

While God hasn’t promised that our human relationships will always endure to the end, it is safe to say that when the Lord is truly giving you a yes about someone, the relationship won’t end as time and trials keep coming.

So when time passes and trials are overcome, but you two are still growing together, that’s when you will really know that God is saying, “Absolutely yes” about someone.

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