If you’re a Christian man and you believe a woman may be interested in you, what should you actually do? Should you wait for her to make the first move? Should you immediately pursue her? Or will that come off as desperate? Will you scare her away if you act too soon or miss your chance if you wait too long? Should you just “let things happen naturally” or be more proactive?
The way you spend your days will be how you spend your life. While there are certainly moments in life that will determine a great deal, the biggest variable on what happens in your life is not a single moment or decision; rather, it’s the everyday choices you make.
A lot of times, a single woman who wants to be married one day will think and pray so much about God sending her a man who pursues her that she often forgets to prepare herself to respond properly once a good man does start pursuing her.
Many Christian men spend years praying for God to bring the right woman into their lives. But when a godly woman finally begins showing genuine interest, some men unintentionally sabotage the opportunity.
Before I get started, I want to make clear that this isn’t about blaming the church as if it’s the enemy. I’m also not saying that the primary purpose of church is to help people get married. Ultimately, the church is God’s idea, and its primary purpose is to proclaim the gospel, disciple Christians, and glorify God.
Are your motives for a relationship pure? Or are you struggling with idolizing relationships?
The person God actually has for us never matches the exact image of the person we imagined them to be.
When you need to make a decision, the last thing you would want to do is miss God’s warning. However, sometimes the Lord’s voice sounds muffled. The signs seem cloudy. We’re anxious, so we lack peace, which could mean we aren’t trusting God. Or maybe our lack of peace is from God because he’s saying no, but we don’t want to hear it.
Is this confusion just a normal part of getting to know someone before you two become an official couple? Or is this person playing games with you? Are you expecting too much clarity too soon? Or is this person wasting your time?
In most cases, a woman doesn’t end up in a terrible marriage by accident. Yes, there are certainly situations where a woman was genuinely deceived by a highly manipulative man. But more often than not, when a woman looks back and wonders, “How did I end up in this terrible marriage?” the warning signs were there all along.