Here are 3 signs God wants to heal you from a past relationship wound.
1. If This Past Relationship Wound Is Controlling Your Relationships in the Present, This Is a Sign God Wants to Heal You
Like puppets on a string, the wounds in our hearts can control the way we live. One tug here and we run from love. One tug there and we run towards an unhealthy relationship in search of love. Pain can be very controlling. It’s easy to obey the feelings our wounds produce because we naturally want the pain to stop.
But the true way to overcome pains in the heart is to find true healing in Christ. The wounds in our past will never stop trying to control us unless we bring them to the feet of Jesus and receive his healing touch. If you know what happened to you in the past is dictating how you are behaving and interacting with others in the present, this is a sign God wants to heal you from a past relationship wounds.
May we cry out with the words of Jeremiah 17:14, “Heal me, O Lord, and I shall be healed; save me, and I shall be saved, for you are my praise.”
2. If This Past Relationship Wound Is Hijacking Your Thoughts, This Is a Sign God Wants to Heal You
One definition of the word “hijack” is “to unlawfully seize in transit and force it to go to a different destination or use it for one’s own purposes.” This is exactly what a past relationship wound can do to your thoughts.
You will be thinking about one thing but then the pain in your heart will just take over your mind and you will get stuck thinking about what happened to you in the past. What we think about eventually controls what we do. So when our thoughts are being hijacked and taken over by a wound in our hearts, we will then begin to live in unhealthy ways as well.
Interestingly enough, the road between our hearts and minds flows both ways. So while a wound in your heart can control your thoughts, your thoughts can actually be used to bring healing to your heart as well. When our minds believe the truths about God’s love for us, this truth can then travel into our hearts and begin to heal the wounded places within us. Notice what Romans 12:2 states:
“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”
If your mind is being hijacked by wounds in the heart, reverse this negative cycle by putting healing truths into your mind which will then travel to your heart. When you choose to dwell on God’s truth in your mind – that you are loved (John 3:16), that through faith you have been transformed into a new creation by God’s grace (2 Corinthians 5:17), and that you have every spiritual blessing in Christ Jesus (Ephesians 1:3) – these truths will bring healing to your heart.
For as Romans 8:6 teaches us, “For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace.”
3. If This Past Relationship Wound Is Corrupting Your Beliefs About Love, This Is a Sign God Wants to Heal You
Perhaps the worst part about being wounded in a past relationship is not the loss of that relationship, but the greater damage can take place when that wound begins to corrupt what you believe about love in general.
When someone is cynical about love and relationships, it is almost always because they have been hurt in their past. God made us to be loved by him and to love him in return. God also made us to love other people and to be loved by other people. As Jesus taught us in Matthew 22:37-40, the two greatest commandments are as follows:
You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets.”
To grow cynical and pessimistic about love is perhaps the greatest blow Satan can accomplish on the human heart. But God is able to heal us, to restore our hearts so we can love again. Love will never be clean. It will never be safe. But love is always worth it. When you have begun to lose this belief and you have started to believe that love is not worth it, this is a sign your heart needs healing from the Lord.
There’s so much more we could talk about when it comes to healing, but the most important step to take if you truly want deep healing in your inner being is to enter into the presence of God. The presence of God alone can bring the healing we need. Sometimes there will be no words needed. Just to experience God’s love for you in a tangible and personal way as you sit in his presence – this is the place where the deepest healing is truly possible.
For as Psalm 147:3 states, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”