The Guy God Wants for You Will NOT Say Any of These 6 Things

If you want to find the right Christian guy for you as quickly as possible, one of the best things you can do is avoid wasting time on the wrong guys for you.

Therefore, here are 6 phrases that can help a Christian woman know a man is wrong for her.

1. A Guy Is Wrong for You If He Says, “I’m Spiritual But I’m Not a Christian”

I’m sure you already know the Bible says we must be equally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14). However, when there is a shortage of Christian men, it’s easy for a woman to get tempted into compromising. She might start playing mind games with herself, justifying that if he’s at least spiritual, perhaps that is enough.

It’s not! When Paul was warning us about the type of people there will be in the last days, he says in 2 Timothy 3:5, “. . . having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people.”

2. A Guy Is Wrong for You If He Says, “I’m a Christian But I Do Church By Myself”

I’m not claiming someone who says this type of thing is not a true Christian. However, I do believe this type of statement reveals a deep immaturity and unwillingness to obey the Scriptures.

Many people have been hurt by the church. It’s difficult to find a place where you feel like you belong. And there are certainly times where we may have to go it alone while we are searching for a healthy church. However, as Christians, we must never think we can “do church by myself.”

A church, by definition, is an assembly of Christians. It is not just an experience, event, or a time to connect with God It includes those things, but church is the family of God. The Bible says we are members of his body (1 Corinthians 12:12-31). If you are a detached member, it’s like a detached limb from the body. It’s not healthy. So it’s actually not possible “to do church by yourself” because it’s not a verb but a noun referring to a group.

Hebrews 10:24-25, “And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.”

3. A Guy Is Wrong for You If He Says, “I Would Never Marry a Woman Without Going on a Test Drive First”

You are not a car. You are not an object. If a man thinks he has the right to your body before committing himself to you in marriage, he’s unbiblical.

This mindset also creates a very conditional relationship. Basically, a guy like this is saying, “I’ll love you so long as you perform properly.” Even if you do give in to this man and he then decides to marry you, you will then have a long and painful marriage with a man who lives by contracts and performance rather than by grace and love (Romans 12:10).

4. A Guy Is Wrong for You If He Says, “If We Love Each Other, God Will Be Okay with It”

Worldly men just make stuff up that sounds good. A godly man lives by the Scriptures. God is not okay with premarital sex or acting like you are married by living together (Ephesians 5:3). Even if you “love each other,” this does not change the holiness of God.

1 Peter 1:14-16, “As obedient children, do not be conformed to the passions of your former ignorance, but as he who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, since it is written, ‘You shall be holy, for I am holy.’”

5. A Guy Is Wrong for You If He Says, “Trust Me, She’s Just a Friend”

If you sense that a man is not setting good boundaries with other women, don’t let him gaslight you. If you two are supposed to be a couple or you are headed in that direction, he should be prioritizing you above other women.

Treat others how you want to be treated (Luke 6:31). If you are putting him before other men, it’s only right that he should be doing the same.

We are not called to live in a bubble and never talk to other people of the opposite sex just because we like someone else or are dating someone else. But there’s also clearly a difference between same gender to same gender friendships compared to mixed gender friendships. Despite feigning ignorance, this man knows this. Don’t let him use you and other women.

If he has a lot of friends that are women and those relationships aren’t changing now that you are in his life, he’s not the right man for you.

6. A Guy Is Wrong for You If He Says, “I Really Like You, But I’m Not Ready for a Relationship Right Now”

If a man is not ready for a relationship right now, why is he letting himself get so close to you? Why has he been leading you on? Odds are, he’s just using you. He is just enjoying the emotional validation he is getting from sensing that you like him or he is setting you up to sleep with you.

Either way, a godly man will pursue you or not pursue you. He’s not going to emotionally orbit all around you and then say he’s not ready for a relationship.

1 Corinthians 13:11, “When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.”

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