Here are 3 possible reasons God is not allowing you to enter into a new season of life right now even though you really want to.
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1. God Will Often Keep Us in a Certain Season of Life Until We Learn the Necessary Lessons for the Next Season He Has for Us
We must remember that everything God does or does not do is always motivated by love (1 John 4:8). So when we want to know why God is doing or not doing something, it can help to ask the question, “How is God showing his love for me?”
One way God shows his love for us when he is keeping us in a season of life we wish was over is by training us in that season for what is ahead. Sending an untrained civilian with trained soldiers onto the battlefield is not loving. Likewise, sending a normal soldier on a very important mission with a special forces unit even though that soldier has not had the advanced training to qualify him for that special forces team would not be loving.
My point is, each new season of life requires new skills if we hope to be successful. If we do not learn what God wants us to learn in this season we are in now, oftentimes, in love, God will keep us in that season until we learn the necessary lessons we need to be successful in the next season. Notice what Jesus said in Luke 16:10-12. It states:
One who is faithful in a very little is also faithful in much, and one who is dishonest in a very little is also dishonest in much. If then you have not been faithful in the unrighteous wealth, who will entrust to you the true riches? And if you have not been faithful in that which is another’s, who will give you that which is your own?”
These verses teach us that the faster we learn to be faithful to God in this season, the faster God will allow us to move into a new season. If you are rebelling and not learning now, God will not move you forward into a new season because that would cause you even more hurt and damage. If you want much, you must first be faithful with little.
2. If God Is Keeping You in a Certain Season of Life Right Now, This Means You Are in the Place Where You Can Bring God the Most Glory
There are big themes throughout the Bible that motivate God to do what he does. In point 1 we talked about one of those themes that always motivates God, which of course is his love. God will never do anything that would be unloving because that would violate his nature, for God is love (1 John 4:8).
Another consistent theme in the Bible that motivates everything God does is his glory. God will always do what brings himself the most glory. Therefore, if God is intentionally keeping you in a season of life even though you wish he would allow you to move into a new season, it is safe to conclude that God knows you can bring him more glory in this season than in a different season.
This does not mean you will bring him more glory because we do have the choice to sin and waste our opportunities. But nonetheless, God’s primary purpose for every season of our lives is for us to magnify him. For in Matthew 5:14-16 Jesus said:
You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.”
Whatever season you are in, God has made you to be a light, but we still have to “let” our light shine for his glory.
3. God May Be Keeping You in This Season of Life Because Other People Need You There Right Now
So far we’ve talked about the love of God and the glory of God being two huge motivating factors for why God does what he does in our lives.
A third huge motivating factor is God’s love for other people. God doesn’t just love us individually. God loves all people and he desires that we share in his love for others. God knows it is good for us to serve other people (Acts 20:35). Therefore, one reason God keeps us in certain seasons of life even though we wish we could move on is because God has a plan to use us to love and serve the people who are also in that season of life with us.
Perhaps God is not allowing you to move on from that job because God wants you to be light to your coworkers. Perhaps God has you at that church because you are called to lead a ministry there. Perhaps God is keeping you single because he is calling you to go on a long mission’s trip. Notice what Paul said Philippians 1:21-26. It states:
For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain. If I am to live in the flesh, that means fruitful labor for me. Yet which I shall choose I cannot tell. I am hard pressed between the two. My desire is to depart and be with Christ, for that is far better. But to remain in the flesh is more necessary on your account. Convinced of this, I know that I will remain and continue with you all, for your progress and joy in the faith, so that in me you may have ample cause to glory in Christ Jesus, because of my coming to you again.”
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