If you keep your heart closed towards someone you like, the relationship will never blossom like it could. But we also know that God commands us to guard our hearts according to Bible verses like Proverbs 4:23.
So here are 3 signs God will often use to tell you it’s time to open your heart to someone.
1. If You Are Too Guarded to Receive a Relationship Blessing from the Lord, This Is a Sign God Is Telling You It’s Time to Open Your Heart More
Life teaches us to guard ourselves from ever getting hurt again. When we opened our hearts to someone in the past but the relationship did not go well, we can often feel like the only way forward is to remain guarded and closed off. In some cases, we create a vicious cycle of feeling the pain of being alone while also pushing everyone away from ourselves. We fear the pain that could occur if we lose someone we love, but we also feel the pain of not having anyone to love.
While choosing not to love anyone will spare you from getting hurt by losing someone you love, in the end this path leads to its own devilish pains that leave us lonely and coldhearted. If we want to experience a godly relationship in the way that God intended when he first made marriage, then we will have to learn how to open our hearts to the right person at the right time.
One sign God is leading you to open your heart to someone is when leaving your heart closed will cause you to miss the blessing of a godly relationship from the Lord. We must guard our hearts. We should not be an open book to everyone we like. We should be slow to let people in because the deeper a relationship goes the more opportunity for pain.
But eventually, to have real love, you must open your heart to someone in godly, wise ways. If we never open our hearts, love will never be able to flow out of our hearts. And if we are not able to give love to those who are showing us love, we are not able to have a healthy relationship filled with mutual love and respect. As Genesis 2:22-25 show us:
And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said, ‘This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.’ Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.”
God made the woman from the same substance as the man. And when a man and woman decide to become husband and wife, the Lord says the two become one. This type of relationship will never occur for you if you refuse to open your heart to begin the process of working towards oneness in marriage.
(For more on this, here are 4 Signs You Are Guarding Your Heart Too Much)
2. If Opening Your Heart to This Person Would Bring More Glory to God, This Is a Sign God Is Leading You to Open Your Heart to Him or Her
While relationships and marriage are certainly amazing gifts created by God to bring his people much pleasure, ultimately, God does everything for his own glory. Never is this truer than when it comes to the relationships.
The reason God loves marriage is because marriage glorifies him. Singleness is very glorifying to the Lord as well, but when someone has the desire to be married, this should be celebrated and encouraged because the glory of the Lord is at stake.
If you are unable to open your heart at the right time and to the right person so that a godly relationship can form, you will actually be hindering God from being glorified in your life. So if you know you need to open your heart to someone for a relationship to begin so that you can glorify God through this relationship, this is a sign the Lord is leading you to lower your guard. For as 1 Corinthians 10:31 states, “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”
And on a quick side note, one sign that God does not want you to open your heart is if doing so would lead to sin, abuse, or a distancing from God. If God would not be honored in this relationship, this is not God leading you to open your heart. The glory of God must always be like our Northern Star, guiding every decision we make in life.
3. If Someone in Your Life Has Earned the Right to Gain a Greater Relationship with You, This Could Be a Sign God Is Telling You to Open Your Heart to This Person
God will not lead you to be unwise with your heart. When it’s truly time to open up to someone so a godly relationship can flourish in your life, the Lord will confirm this big decision to you by showing you godly qualities in this other person. He will give you both opportunities to see each other’s devotion to the Lord and good intentions for this relationship.
You will never know exactly how a relationship will turn out if you decide to open up to someone. But you should be able to point back to a good track record with this person before opening up to them. Notice how Proverbs 22:24-25 teaches us to observe someone’s character before creating a relationship with them, “Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare.”
The way this works in life is through a process. The more evidence and experiences you have with someone that they have good intentions, are walking with the Lord, and have shown that they deserve a greater relationship with you, the more you can open up. Again, this is a process. You don’t fully open your heart to someone you just started dating. Rather, as the relationship matures, you can then open your heart more and more – only fully opening up to them once you both have made a full commitment to each other in the covenant bond of marriage.