Proverbs 19:2 says, “Desire without knowledge is not good.” With this truth in mind, a desire for dating is good, but if you lack godly knowledge your relationship desires can lead you astray.
So here are 3 signs God is telling you to mature in Christ more before trying to date anyone.
If Your Last Relationship Experience Ended Badly Because of Poor Personal Choices, God Is Telling You to Mature More Before Trying to Date Again
The reasons for a breakup are countless. Certainly many times there was no sin involved. Maybe it just didn’t work out. However, many times our personal choices sabotage our connection with others. If this is why your last relationship ended, it is wise to try to correct your short-comings so you do not repeat the same mistakes twice.
The worst thing we can do is make bad personal choices that ruin a relationship but then blame God for this breakup. As Proverbs 19:3 states, “A person’s own folly leads to their ruin, yet their heart rages against the Lord.”
We all make mistakes, but only the humble will receive God’s correction so he can restore them and then bless them in future.
If You Have a History of Dating People Who Are Not Walking with the Lord, This Is a Sign God Is Asking You to Mature More Before Trying to Date Again
As we all know, healthy relationships cannot be one sided. Sometimes a relationship ends badly because of the choices of the person you were with. This is an unavoidable risk in all relationships. Everyone has free will and there is always the chance that bad choices will be made by the person we are in a relationship with.
However, one variable that increases the chances of getting hurt by others is when we lack the ability to properly assess other people’s character. If you have a history of believing the best of people to a fault and you keep getting into relationships that end badly because the people you are with are not ready, then this could be a sign God is telling you to mature more before trying to date again.
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If You Know You Are Not Prepared to Be a Godly Spouse Yet, This Is a Sign God Is Asking You to Mature More Before Dating Someone
The last sign to look for actually requires you to look past your season of dating and into the possibility of marriage. When dating is your focus, many times you enter into a relationship before you are actually ready.
I believe that the best use of dating is to be marriage centered. Certainly this doesn’t mean you should know you want to marry the person you are dating, but I do believe you should be prepared to get married if God does reveal that you and your boyfriend or girlfriend should get married.
If you know you are not prepared to get married even if God told you that this person is your future spouse, I believe this is a sign that God would want you to wait before dating so you can mature more before getting into a relationship. When you date before you are ready for marriage, you often date too long and fall into all kinds of temptations that could have been avoided. Notice what Jesus said:
“Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won’t you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it? For if you lay the foundation and are not able to finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule you, saying, ‘This person began to build and wasn’t able to finish.’” (Luke 14:28-30)
This is often what it is like when people start dating before counting the cost for marriage. Count the cost of marriage before you begin laying a relationship foundation in dating. You don’t want to start your relationship poorly.
If you are not prepared for marriage, this is a sign God is telling you to mature more in Christ before you begin dating someone.
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I feel so blessed by you and the training and instruction that I wouldn’t have otherwise received had I said,”No, not right now God” . . . . I am really going through a serious season of spiritual change and growth right now and I’m so grateful that God loves me enough to rebuke, correct and mold me in His love.” – Nafisah
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