3 Signs God Is Trying to Remove Someone from Your Life

God can do anything he wants, whenever he wants, and by whatever method he wants. So if God doesn’t want someone in your life, why wouldn’t he just remove them instantly rather than “trying” to remove them?

While God can do whatever he wants, he usually includes us in what happens in our lives. God could have cultivated the Garden of Eden himself, but he told Adam to do that (Genesis 2:15). God could have multiplied humanity himself, but he made humans to multiply other humans (Genesis 1:28). God could have made the Bible himself, but through his Spirit he inspired humans to write what he wanted them to write (2 Peter 1:20-21).

Therefore, it should be no surprise that when God wants someone removed from your life, he usually will include you in this process.

Here are 3 signs God is trying to remove someone from your life.

1. If You’re Craving the Former Order You Had Before Sinful Chaos Ensued Once This Person Came Into Your Life

Whenever the Holy Spirit is present, he brings more order. As we can see before God ordered creation, it states the Holy Spirit was present (Genesis 1:2). 1 Corinthians 14:33 (NIV) also says, “For God is not a God of disorder but of peace—as in all the congregations of the Lord’s people.” And Ecclesiastes 3:11 (NIV) states, “He has made everything beautiful in its time.”

Now compare these truths to the reality that occurs when some people come into your life:

• When someone is living in sin, they stay up late and party, thus causing them to be tired and late to their obligations.
• When someone is living in sin, they change the order from marriage and then sex to sex and then maybe marriage one day if it works out.
• When someone is living in sin, arguments and fights are rampant, causing relationship chaos.

The point is, if you long for the days before you met this person, meaning your life has become more chaotic the closer you and this person have become, this is a strong sign God is telling you to remove this person from your life.

2. If Your Connection Started Strong but Is Growing Weaker with Time Rather than Starting Weak but Growing Stronger with Time

Infatuation is like a plant that looks edible but in the end it turns out to be poison. It’s like being trapped in the desert, running towards a pool of water, only to then realize the water is spoiled with the first drink you take. Infatuation appears at first glance to be true love, but overtime you begin to realize it is a mere imitation. It always starts strong but then grows weak.

True love, however, does not weaken over time but grows stronger. It can even begin when two people say, “I would never want to date or marry that person.” But with time, true love blossoms and grows into something beautiful.

False love, however, can start strong but grows weaker and weaker as time goes on. It’s like a drunk man who sees everything through an intoxicated mind. As 1 Peter 5:8 states, “Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.”

3. If You’re Fighting the Spirit’s Conviction, Biblical Wisdom, and Circumstances to Stay Together, God Is Trying to Remove This Person from Your Life

You will have to fight to stay together when God reveals the right person to you. But it’s also possible you are fighting to stay with someone that God is trying to remove from you. You will know the difference when you are fighting with God by your side compared to fighting against God.

When it’s God’s will for you, the Holy Spirit will not be convicting you of sin, it will be biblically wise, and the circumstances in your life may not be perfect but it will be possible to be with this person. But when it’s not God, you will feel the Spirit giving you a godly guilt about this relationship (2 Corinthians 7:10), you will see warnings in Scripture to let this person go (Psalm 119:24), and usually if you just stopped holding onto this person the circumstance of life would naturally separate you two.

When God wants you with someone, he will give you the power to fight for this relationship. When God wants you to remove this person, you will be fighting against God to stay in this relationship. Never fight God. For he has a good plan for your life if you keep following him (Philippians 1:6).