Since we know godly relationships glorify the Lord, we also know that Satan hates godly relationships; thus, he will seek to keep you away from “your person.”
By the term, “your person,” I’m referring to that one person God has planned for you to connect with in a way that you never experienced before. I mean the person God will lead you to marry one day.
Here are 5 things Satan will often try to do to keep you from “your person.”
1. Satan Will Tempt You to Take Good Theology About God’s Sovereignty and Use It in Bad Ways to Keep You from Your Person
When you read the Bible without injecting your own philosophy onto the text, it’s clear that it continually points to God having a plan and accomplishing that plan through his power (Psalm 115:3, Daniel 4:35, Proverbs 19:21, Ephesians 1:11).
However, one can accept see this truth in the Bible and then misapply it in unbiblical ways. For example, it would be unbiblical to say, “Well, God just hasn’t elected me. Therefore I can’t believe in Jesus.” Or, “Well, since God is all powerful, he could reveal himself; but since he hasn’t, he must not be real.” Or, more related to topic here, “Since God is sovereign and I’m still single, this must mean God doesn’t have a person for me.”
One way Satan will keep you out of a godly relationship is by tempting you to blame the sovereignty of God for your singleness. Not only does this tempt you see your singleness in a negative way, which is unbiblical because singleness is a blessing too (1 Corinthians 7:7), it also causes you to stop making good choices and then blame God for things he wants you to do something about (Proverbs 19:3).
Yes, the Bible does say God is sovereign (Proverbs 16:33); but it does not say our choices don’t matter (Galatians 6:7). God brings about his will and includes our human free choices in that plan (Acts 2:23).
So if you’ve given up trying and are blaming God because he’s sovereign, this is a sign Satan is tempting you to use good theology in a bad way.
2. Satan Will Tempt You to Try and Force God to Bless a Relationship with Someone Who Is Not “Your Person” in Order to Keep You from the Person God Does Have for You
When you don’t allow God to choose the right person for you, you will try to choose this person for yourself. But for a relationship to be blessed, you need God to bless it; and for God to bless something, it has to be in his will. God won’t answer a prayer that goes against his plan (1 John 5:14).
Therefore, Satan will tempt you to spend all your energy on trying to get God to give you a certain person rather than spending your energy on following God as he leads you to the right person.
And when God chooses the right person for you, you will realize this is actually the person you’ve always wanted to be with anyways. God won’t choose someone for you that you wouldn’t want. If you don’t want to date or marry that person, that’s not your person. But God knows you better than you know you. He not only knows who you are now but who you will be in the future. And God intends to put you with someone that is right for you now and in ways that you can’t even imagine in the future.
Obedience to God is about glorifying God, but God also wants us to obey him for our own good as well (Deuteronomy 6:24).
3. Satan Will Try to Keep You Away from “Your Person” By Tempting You to Ask Too Much from “Your Person”
Even when you do meet the right person, this doesn’t mean your relationship will be perfect. We can be with the right person but if we are not treating each other in the right way, things will still not be good.
Perhaps the biggest barrier to joy in human relationships is that we ask too much from each other. When we go to another person for things we should be going to God for, we end up missing out not only on getting what we need from God but also on getting good things that we could have received from this human relationship.
When you want someone to make you happy in ways that are just not possible, your heart will be disconnected from “your person.” Only when you are content in Christ are you free to enjoy another person for who they are rather than asking them to be something they can never be for you (Psalm 16:2-3, Colossians 3:14-15).
4. Satan Will Try to Keep You from Your Person By Tempting You to Project Past Hurts Related to Other People Onto This Person
Just today I read a comment on one of my videos which said, “Find a good man? This is not possible. There are no good men on the whole planet. None!”
While my heart sympathizes with this woman since it’s clear she’s been hurt, it’s also clear that her main issue is herself. Anytime a man or woman states that the problem is “all the women” or “all the men,” this is a clear sign the problem is really inside of that individual.
So if you’ve been hurt in the past by a few people from the opposite gender but now you are projecting those hurts onto all people from the opposite gender, this is not the opposite gender’s issue. In an instance like this, the issue keeping you from your person is within you.
The gate has always been narrow, but God will always preserve a remnant of true Christians (Matthew 7:13-14, Jude 1:24-25). Never allow Satan to keep you from your person by tempting you with the lie that all people are like the few people who have hurt you in the past.
5. Satan Will Try to Keep You from Your Person By Tempting You to Believe You’re Not Ready for a Relationship Even Though You Really Are
Are there biblical requirements you must meet before you are prepared to thrive in romance? Yes. But these requirements are not overly complicated or unrealistic. Never think you need to be perfect to be with “your person.” You really only need 4 things: 1. To be a Christian. 2. To be bearing fruit for God. 3. To be prepared to fulfill the biblical role of a husband or wife. And 4. To want to be with the person you are choosing to marry.
You don’t need to have a huge salary as a man to be a provider and protector. You don’t need to be a supermodel to be a beautiful woman. You don’t have to say all the right things or understand all the intricacies of relationships. It’s really just about being able to love someone out of the love you are receiving from your Heavenly Father.
Don’t let Satan keep you from your person by tempting you to believe you need to be perfect. You don’t. Follow Jesus and he will prepare you. Colossians 3:14, “And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.”
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