4 Healthy Biblical Reasons Someone Is Always on Your Mind

Usually, it’s not good when someone is always on our minds, especially when we know we can’t be in a relationship with this person. I’ve talked about that side of things in many other articles.

However, sometimes it can be healthy to think a lot about someone. I’ve talked about this side of things a lot less. So today, I want to give you 4 biblical reasons why it could be a good thing if someone is always on your mind.

1. Someone Can Always Be on Your Mind When You Really Care About Them

When I’m using the phrase “always on your mind,” I’m being a bit hyperbolic. If you literally always had someone on your mind and you never had any thoughts except the ones involving this person, that would be unhealthy. But that’s not what I’m talking about. I’m simply saying you are thinking a lot about this person – far more than you would normally think about someone.

Is it idolatry? Is it a soul tie? Is it because you’ve bonded yourself with this person through some sort of sin? Maybe. Or it could simply be that you really care about this person and have genuine love for them. Look at what Paul said in Philippians 1:3 and 1:7-8, which states:

I thank my God in all my remembrance of you . . . It is right for me to feel this way about you all, because I hold you in my heart, for you are all partakers with me of grace, both in my imprisonment and in the defense and confirmation of the gospel. For God is my witness, how I yearn for you all with the affection of Christ Jesus.”

It’s normal to think a lot about those things you care about the most. This is why we must certainly think the most about God since our hearts must be devoted to him above all else. But God also wants us to love other people; thus, God will also want us to think about those people, too.

2. Someone Can Always Be on Your Mind Because God Wants You to Pray for Them

In Philippians 1:3-4, Paul also said, “I thank my God in all my remembrance of you, always in every prayer of mine for you all making my prayer with joy . . .” Not only did Paul remember these Philippians, but he was also praying for them when he remembered them.

Likewise, sometimes God allows you to think a lot about someone to prompt you to pray for them. Perhaps you have strong feelings for someone who is not walking with God. Praying for their salvation or repentance of sins is very healthy. Or maybe you just know that person is going through something really difficult. God may want you to be lifting them up in prayer.

Never forget that prayer really helps people. As 2 Corinthians 1:11 explains, “You also must help us by prayer, so that many will give thanks on our behalf for the blessing granted us through the prayers of many.”

3. Someone Can Always Be on Your Thoughts Because Your Mind Is in a Season of Sorting Out a Plan to Deal with What’s Going on in Your Heart

I do think that a prolonged season of thinking a lot about someone is usually a sign that something unhealthy is going on in your heart. However, if someone is on your mind a lot right now but this has not been happening for months or years, it could be a sign that God is giving your mind the time to sort out what is going on in your heart

For example, when you have romantic feelings for someone, the emotions of the heart can be very powerful. However, this intoxicating effect can also cause clouded thinking. God doesn’t want us to just be led by our hearts. Rather, he wants us to use our minds as well. We must love God with all that we are – heart, soul, body, and mind (Matthew 22:37).

Thus, you may need an intense season of thinking about someone to really sort out what you should do about your feelings for this person. Which leads us to point 4.

4. Someone Can Always Be on Your Mind Because God Is Motivating You to Action

The main reason there is such an emphasis in the Scriptures about controlling our thoughts is that thoughts lead to actions. Haggai 1:7 (NIV), “This is what the Lord Almighty says: ‘Give careful thought to your ways.’”

This fact is used in both good and bad ways. When our thoughts are dark, we do unhealthy things. But when our thoughts are godly, we end up doing godly things (Romans 8:5-8).

Therefore, when God is preparing you to take biblical action steps toward a healthy Christian relationship with someone, this is often preceded by a healthy season of reflection that leads to wise action.

Here’s a related article called 3 Biblical Steps to Take When You’re a Christian and You Like Someone.